My partner (22M) and I (21F) have been officially dating for a few months and have had sexual relations for a couple months before that. For some reason we started having unprotected “pull out” sex at some point, and he only wore a condom once because I asked him to. It’s getting stressful waiting for my period every month. I really don’t want to use hormonal BC because I have enough stress due to mood swings as it is and don’t want to mess up my hormones more. I feel that he’s being selfish and prioritizing his sexual pleasure over my health and facing the potential risks—when I told him about spermicide he said “isn’t that bad for your penis though” and that really annoyed me but I didn’t know what to say without coming off as passive aggressive so kind of just got mad but didn’t say anything. Should I just start denying him sex if he’s not wearing a condom? Compromise and ask him only to wear one on the days I’m sure I’m not ovulating? Break up? How can I communicate assertively with him about this topic instead of just shutting down and not knowing what to say?
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r/sex My partner (22M) and I (21F) have been officially dating for a few months and have had sexual relations for a couple months before that. For some reason we started having unprotected “pull out” sex at some point, and he only wore a condom once because I asked him to. It’s getting stressful waiting for my period every month. I really don’t want to use hormonal BC because I have enough stress due to mood swings as it is and don’t want to mess up my hormones more. I feel that he’s being selfish and prioritizing his sexual pleasure over my health and facing the potential risks—when I told him about spermicide he said “isn’t that bad for your penis though” and that really annoyed me but I didn’t know what to say without coming off as passive aggressive so kind of just got mad but didn’t say anything. Should I just start denying him sex if he’s not wearing a condom? Compromise and ask him only to wear one on the days I’m sure I’m not ovulating? Break up? How can I communicate assertively with him about this topic instead of just shutting down and not knowing what to say? submitted by /u/jfeakytckh [link] [comments]
My partner (22M) and I (21F) have been officially dating for a few months and have had sexual relations for a couple months before that. For some reason we started having unprotected “pull out” sex at some point, and he only wore a condom once because I asked him to. It’s getting stressful waiting for my period every month. I really don’t want to use hormonal BC because I have enough stress due to mood swings as it is and don’t want to mess up my hormones more. I feel that he’s being selfish and prioritizing his sexual pleasure over my health and facing the potential risks—when I told him about spermicide he said “isn’t that bad for your penis though” and that really annoyed me but I didn’t know what to say without coming off as passive aggressive so kind of just got mad but didn’t say anything. Should I just start denying him sex if he’s not wearing a condom? Compromise and ask him only to wear one on the days I’m sure I’m not ovulating? Break up? How can I communicate assertively with him about this topic instead of just shutting down and not knowing what to say?
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