How to get over purity culture sex hang ups? (F/22) /u/thelovewitch069420 Sex

I envy people with normal attitudes about sex, and I don’t know how to go about changing that.

My (F/22) post history is a broken record, I won’t get into the nitty-gritty here. Basically I was raised in a strict purity culture type of household, I have very little relationship experience, and I’m somewhat…scared (?) of sex.

Like, my libido is very high (don’t assault my inbox). But not only have I never had sex, the thought of doing it with someone scares me. One, the physical pain aspect during the first time, as well as the possibility of blood-stained sheets. Two, the fact that as women we have to meticulously plan out when we’re supposed to have sex with guys – even ones we really like/have a good connection with – because as we all know, men are prone to completely switching up after getting what they want. Three, it’s been harder than I thought shedding a lot of the purity culture stuff I was raised with.

Also, being in college and having a bunch of friends who have gone through a bunch of crappy situationships, getting their hearts broken by the dudes they lost their V-cards to…no, thanks.

I want to experience true love one day (and have some mind-blowing sex among with that) but the thought of losing it to the wrong person one day almost terrifies me to the point of never doing it. How can I get over this hurdle?

I envy people with normal attitudes about sex, and I don’t know how to go about changing that.

My (F/22) post history is a broken record, I won’t get into the nitty-gritty here. Basically I was raised in a strict purity culture type of household, I have very little relationship experience, and I’m somewhat…scared (?) of sex.

Like, my libido is very high (don’t assault my inbox). But not only have I never had sex, the thought of doing it with someone scares me. One, the physical pain aspect during the first time, as well as the possibility of blood-stained sheets. Two, the fact that as women we have to meticulously plan out when we’re supposed to have sex with guys – even ones we really like/have a good connection with – because as we all know, men are prone to completely switching up after getting what they want. Three, it’s been harder than I thought shedding a lot of the purity culture stuff I was raised with.

Also, being in college and having a bunch of friends who have gone through a bunch of crappy situationships, getting their hearts broken by the dudes they lost their V-cards to…no, thanks.

I want to experience true love one day (and have some mind-blowing sex among with that) but the thought of losing it to the wrong person one day almost terrifies me to the point of never doing it. How can I get over this hurdle?