should I (25f) have sex with him (27m) for first time tonight? /u/unknownsender2 Sex

I’ll keep it short because I have a tendency to ramble. Ill give any additional info in the comments if you want it!

So I have a tendency to have sex pretty early in my relationships (often before it even becomes official, like usually in less than two weeks of knowing them). I have felt like this has led me into relationships that have been dominated by sex rather than real intimacy and I hated that for several reasons I don’t need to get into.

Anyways. Current man. I’ve known him for years thru dating apps and it going nowhere. Been mutuals ever since. Around October we started talking again regularly and hanging out as friends. Pretty platonic and I was seeing someone else, though I could tell he might’ve been interested.

Well, after I became a free bird him and I started going on actual dates and talking romantically. It’s been about a month now. Throughout our friendship and dating I feel like we have built a pretty good start of the intimacy and relationship I’m looking for. He knows I want to take things slow (emotionally and physically) and he’s been respecting that but not hesitant to express how into me he is. Which is great! And we’ve been flirting a lot, the sexual chemistry and tension is DEFINITELY there.

Here’s the thing. He’s been out of town for over a week and I see him tonight. I want to have sex with him tonight. But I have it in my head maybe i should wait until mid March, after we go on this fancy date and he wines and dines me and it’s all cute and romantic and then we go home and fuck for the first time. BUT. I’m a horny SOB and I don’t want to wait….

So? Should I do it tonight? Or wait? Is there benefit in waiting a little bit longer? I’m not practiced in the art of self control so I really don’t know. Gimme your personal anecdotes and advice!

I’ll keep it short because I have a tendency to ramble. Ill give any additional info in the comments if you want it!

So I have a tendency to have sex pretty early in my relationships (often before it even becomes official, like usually in less than two weeks of knowing them). I have felt like this has led me into relationships that have been dominated by sex rather than real intimacy and I hated that for several reasons I don’t need to get into.

Anyways. Current man. I’ve known him for years thru dating apps and it going nowhere. Been mutuals ever since. Around October we started talking again regularly and hanging out as friends. Pretty platonic and I was seeing someone else, though I could tell he might’ve been interested.

Well, after I became a free bird him and I started going on actual dates and talking romantically. It’s been about a month now. Throughout our friendship and dating I feel like we have built a pretty good start of the intimacy and relationship I’m looking for. He knows I want to take things slow (emotionally and physically) and he’s been respecting that but not hesitant to express how into me he is. Which is great! And we’ve been flirting a lot, the sexual chemistry and tension is DEFINITELY there.

Here’s the thing. He’s been out of town for over a week and I see him tonight. I want to have sex with him tonight. But I have it in my head maybe i should wait until mid March, after we go on this fancy date and he wines and dines me and it’s all cute and romantic and then we go home and fuck for the first time. BUT. I’m a horny SOB and I don’t want to wait….

So? Should I do it tonight? Or wait? Is there benefit in waiting a little bit longer? I’m not practiced in the art of self control so I really don’t know. Gimme your personal anecdotes and advice!