This is going to be long but i’ll keep it detailed so no one will jump to conclusions in the comments as ive seen with some of these posts.
Me (M25) and my gf (F26) have been now in a great relationship for around 6 months and i hope i could help her orgasm. She’s never had one or at least when i asked her in the first months of the relationship she said that at least she wasnt aware of it. I know people feel orgasms differently but I’m pretty sure she would know if shes had it. I’ve had no problem with any previous partner to make them arrive even tho they have had very varying ”tricks” to make them cum.
When we started dating it was very soon clear to me she hadnt had many experiences with actual sex where the man cares about a womans pleasure since she said that nobody has ever even tried to make her cum. This also her first relationship and her past experiences have been drunk flings so no surprise there i guess.
After finding this out ive tried to introduce her to the idea that sex can also be pleasurable to her and have done my upmost to please her and to introduce new things to her. (Nobody had gone down on her before for example)
Even though i dont absolutely want her to feel pressured to orgasm i have stated that we can work towards it together if she wants and she said that it would probably be nice even tho she doesnt know what to expect. But what makes this a bit tricky at least is that she doesnt masturbate. She said she has tried a very few times but she doesnt really feel it and only feels turned on when i take control and make the move. So because of this its hard for her to give me instructions how to touch her right or what she wants. Ive also asked about her kinks and that there is no need to be ashamed if there are any, but apparently only kind of”kink” she has is me taking control.
I know she still enjoys our sex without orgams since weve discussed this openly and she is very trustworthy. We also have fun time a lot when we are together (mid-distance relationship) and its always been great.
Nowadays when we do have sex i always make sure to touch her first for a long time to help her figure out what she likes. She also has said that usually she gets this ”uncomfy” feeling of almost overstimulating pleasure, which i think might be the last wall between orgasm or not. I’ve encouraged her to try and hold on over this period (of course that if it is really too much ill stop) but yet no orgasms trying that. I also suggested getting a vibe and she was open to the idea.
I would just like to help her enjoy sex even more :/ at this point id just like to hear other peoples thoughts on the matter. I dont think it would be appropriate to talk to my friends about this since its really personal. What do you think, could i try something more?
Also:
-yes i know women O through clit stimulation, have never made anyone cum through penetration.
-I do give her lots of nonsexual intimacy also, and show her i love her
-I understand it might take long to O, sometimes i pleasure her +40min
-I dont say such things as ”yeah cum for me” since these create stress
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r/sex This is going to be long but i’ll keep it detailed so no one will jump to conclusions in the comments as ive seen with some of these posts. Me (M25) and my gf (F26) have been now in a great relationship for around 6 months and i hope i could help her orgasm. She’s never had one or at least when i asked her in the first months of the relationship she said that at least she wasnt aware of it. I know people feel orgasms differently but I’m pretty sure she would know if shes had it. I’ve had no problem with any previous partner to make them arrive even tho they have had very varying ”tricks” to make them cum. When we started dating it was very soon clear to me she hadnt had many experiences with actual sex where the man cares about a womans pleasure since she said that nobody has ever even tried to make her cum. This also her first relationship and her past experiences have been drunk flings so no surprise there i guess. After finding this out ive tried to introduce her to the idea that sex can also be pleasurable to her and have done my upmost to please her and to introduce new things to her. (Nobody had gone down on her before for example) Even though i dont absolutely want her to feel pressured to orgasm i have stated that we can work towards it together if she wants and she said that it would probably be nice even tho she doesnt know what to expect. But what makes this a bit tricky at least is that she doesnt masturbate. She said she has tried a very few times but she doesnt really feel it and only feels turned on when i take control and make the move. So because of this its hard for her to give me instructions how to touch her right or what she wants. Ive also asked about her kinks and that there is no need to be ashamed if there are any, but apparently only kind of”kink” she has is me taking control. I know she still enjoys our sex without orgams since weve discussed this openly and she is very trustworthy. We also have fun time a lot when we are together (mid-distance relationship) and its always been great. Nowadays when we do have sex i always make sure to touch her first for a long time to help her figure out what she likes. She also has said that usually she gets this ”uncomfy” feeling of almost overstimulating pleasure, which i think might be the last wall between orgasm or not. I’ve encouraged her to try and hold on over this period (of course that if it is really too much ill stop) but yet no orgasms trying that. I also suggested getting a vibe and she was open to the idea. I would just like to help her enjoy sex even more :/ at this point id just like to hear other peoples thoughts on the matter. I dont think it would be appropriate to talk to my friends about this since its really personal. What do you think, could i try something more? Also: -yes i know women O through clit stimulation, have never made anyone cum through penetration. -I do give her lots of nonsexual intimacy also, and show her i love her -I understand it might take long to O, sometimes i pleasure her +40min -I dont say such things as ”yeah cum for me” since these create stress submitted by /u/peanuthorse7895 [link] [comments]
This is going to be long but i’ll keep it detailed so no one will jump to conclusions in the comments as ive seen with some of these posts.
Me (M25) and my gf (F26) have been now in a great relationship for around 6 months and i hope i could help her orgasm. She’s never had one or at least when i asked her in the first months of the relationship she said that at least she wasnt aware of it. I know people feel orgasms differently but I’m pretty sure she would know if shes had it. I’ve had no problem with any previous partner to make them arrive even tho they have had very varying ”tricks” to make them cum.
When we started dating it was very soon clear to me she hadnt had many experiences with actual sex where the man cares about a womans pleasure since she said that nobody has ever even tried to make her cum. This also her first relationship and her past experiences have been drunk flings so no surprise there i guess.
After finding this out ive tried to introduce her to the idea that sex can also be pleasurable to her and have done my upmost to please her and to introduce new things to her. (Nobody had gone down on her before for example)
Even though i dont absolutely want her to feel pressured to orgasm i have stated that we can work towards it together if she wants and she said that it would probably be nice even tho she doesnt know what to expect. But what makes this a bit tricky at least is that she doesnt masturbate. She said she has tried a very few times but she doesnt really feel it and only feels turned on when i take control and make the move. So because of this its hard for her to give me instructions how to touch her right or what she wants. Ive also asked about her kinks and that there is no need to be ashamed if there are any, but apparently only kind of”kink” she has is me taking control.
I know she still enjoys our sex without orgams since weve discussed this openly and she is very trustworthy. We also have fun time a lot when we are together (mid-distance relationship) and its always been great.
Nowadays when we do have sex i always make sure to touch her first for a long time to help her figure out what she likes. She also has said that usually she gets this ”uncomfy” feeling of almost overstimulating pleasure, which i think might be the last wall between orgasm or not. I’ve encouraged her to try and hold on over this period (of course that if it is really too much ill stop) but yet no orgasms trying that. I also suggested getting a vibe and she was open to the idea.
I would just like to help her enjoy sex even more :/ at this point id just like to hear other peoples thoughts on the matter. I dont think it would be appropriate to talk to my friends about this since its really personal. What do you think, could i try something more?
Also:
-yes i know women O through clit stimulation, have never made anyone cum through penetration.
-I do give her lots of nonsexual intimacy also, and show her i love her
-I understand it might take long to O, sometimes i pleasure her +40min
-I dont say such things as ”yeah cum for me” since these create stress
submitted by /u/peanuthorse7895
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