My BF forgets to pleasure me /u/quackduckyousuck Sex

We have penetrative sex, he turns me on quite often. I like to give him blowjobs or make make him cum with my hands, just bcs i want him to feel good. But he doesnt pleasure me until i ask him to. I have fantasies and i told him about them. Its nothing special, just his fingers inside me bcs he would want to make me feel good too. But he doesnt think about things like that. Is it normal? I know everybody has different libido and mine is higher… but how can he forget? I talked with him about this issue, he said he doesnt think about it that much.

I used to have problems with orgasming and thanks to sex toys its finally possible. I thought the reason might be that it takes me more time.

At the beginning of our relationship, we used to pleasure each other quite often. We are already together for 7 years. He used to have time when he didn’t wanna touch me and it made me hate myself, i felt ugly , my mind hurt me (i have poor mental health but im working on it). We talked alot, cried, but in the end we found out why and now its better. Work stress was destroying him. Sometimes i have a hard time understanding others. I try very hard and read discussions very often. I feel like im usually the one that initiates sex and it doesnt bother me that much. We communicate every time we have some issues. But sometimes it doesnt help. Do you think that its something that can change? I mean him wanting to pleasure me without me asking him? I dont always want penis. Sometimes i just want his fingers or to get eaten out. I was thinking if he migh be asexual, but probably not. I see this as something that can improve.. or maybe i shouldn’t expect some things? I can change if im wrong. I do give him hints. He is a bit dummy but he is very loving. I understand that men are different and think differently. Should i just stop with my fantasies ? Can someone explain men to me? Might be the issue him seeing himself ugly? He sometimes talks ugly about his body.

We have penetrative sex, he turns me on quite often. I like to give him blowjobs or make make him cum with my hands, just bcs i want him to feel good. But he doesnt pleasure me until i ask him to. I have fantasies and i told him about them. Its nothing special, just his fingers inside me bcs he would want to make me feel good too. But he doesnt think about things like that. Is it normal? I know everybody has different libido and mine is higher… but how can he forget? I talked with him about this issue, he said he doesnt think about it that much.

I used to have problems with orgasming and thanks to sex toys its finally possible. I thought the reason might be that it takes me more time.

At the beginning of our relationship, we used to pleasure each other quite often. We are already together for 7 years. He used to have time when he didn’t wanna touch me and it made me hate myself, i felt ugly , my mind hurt me (i have poor mental health but im working on it). We talked alot, cried, but in the end we found out why and now its better. Work stress was destroying him. Sometimes i have a hard time understanding others. I try very hard and read discussions very often. I feel like im usually the one that initiates sex and it doesnt bother me that much. We communicate every time we have some issues. But sometimes it doesnt help. Do you think that its something that can change? I mean him wanting to pleasure me without me asking him? I dont always want penis. Sometimes i just want his fingers or to get eaten out. I was thinking if he migh be asexual, but probably not. I see this as something that can improve.. or maybe i shouldn’t expect some things? I can change if im wrong. I do give him hints. He is a bit dummy but he is very loving. I understand that men are different and think differently. Should i just stop with my fantasies ? Can someone explain men to me? Might be the issue him seeing himself ugly? He sometimes talks ugly about his body.