Advice for inexperienced woman 25f /u/AbbreviationsOk2543 Sex

Hi Everyone!

I hope you all are well, if you are reading this, thanks for taking your time. Long story short, I was late to the game romantically. I am confident as a person, extroverted played soccer & dancer, but I’ve always been very shy/awkward about sex stuff. Basically, I used working full time & being on the college dancer team as an excuse not to date even when asked out.

I had some childhood trauma related to sex that I got therapy for while in college that really healed me up mentally! So, now I can say I’m ready to be sexual.

I had my first real kiss at 23, & had sex with someone at 24 three or four times. Basically the guy I list virginity to wasn’t from US, and was very dominant & I would say viewed woman below. So he didn’t really ask me if I wanted just took. Which was a relief b/c it was so built up in my head that I would be too terrified to actually be ” ready”. The thing is though I never orgasmed with him and overall it just hurt.

Here’s the thing. I just feel awkward during sex. Like, I didn’t feel comfortable. When I masthrbste it like im totally still, eyes are closed relaxing. It doesn’t match the experience of really having sex with someone, so its hard to build the arousal like i do when mssturbating. So in real life is overwhelming & doesn’t really match books i read. Also, I don’t know if I’ve ever felt like sexual chemistry as described in books? Kissing and stuff feels performative. But I know I have a sex drive as I masterbate lmfao.

Now, im exploring online dating which is overwhelming tbh. Not trying to be a showboat here, but im attractive lol and nobody expects me to be inexperienced like it doesn’t match my image. Like this is embarrassing for me. Do I tell someone im more seriously interested in that im inexperienced?? Do I not – fake it till you make it?? At this point I’m a starfish in bed, like I dont know what to do. I am still scared. Never went down on a guy? Any educational material to learn how to be good in bed lol? Im the type that would ask for choreo before or school books before class, and spends hours learning it so when I showed up to class I never looked stupid.

Additionally, any advice on how to enjoy sex? The dream would to someone I want to fuck all the time & have good sex! I dont want to have sex with a million people, im never going to one night stand, but I just want to find a good person im sexually attracted to and want sex with.

Any advice appreciated!!! Thank you so much!!!

Hi Everyone!

I hope you all are well, if you are reading this, thanks for taking your time. Long story short, I was late to the game romantically. I am confident as a person, extroverted played soccer & dancer, but I’ve always been very shy/awkward about sex stuff. Basically, I used working full time & being on the college dancer team as an excuse not to date even when asked out.

I had some childhood trauma related to sex that I got therapy for while in college that really healed me up mentally! So, now I can say I’m ready to be sexual.

I had my first real kiss at 23, & had sex with someone at 24 three or four times. Basically the guy I list virginity to wasn’t from US, and was very dominant & I would say viewed woman below. So he didn’t really ask me if I wanted just took. Which was a relief b/c it was so built up in my head that I would be too terrified to actually be ” ready”. The thing is though I never orgasmed with him and overall it just hurt.

Here’s the thing. I just feel awkward during sex. Like, I didn’t feel comfortable. When I masthrbste it like im totally still, eyes are closed relaxing. It doesn’t match the experience of really having sex with someone, so its hard to build the arousal like i do when mssturbating. So in real life is overwhelming & doesn’t really match books i read. Also, I don’t know if I’ve ever felt like sexual chemistry as described in books? Kissing and stuff feels performative. But I know I have a sex drive as I masterbate lmfao.

Now, im exploring online dating which is overwhelming tbh. Not trying to be a showboat here, but im attractive lol and nobody expects me to be inexperienced like it doesn’t match my image. Like this is embarrassing for me. Do I tell someone im more seriously interested in that im inexperienced?? Do I not – fake it till you make it?? At this point I’m a starfish in bed, like I dont know what to do. I am still scared. Never went down on a guy? Any educational material to learn how to be good in bed lol? Im the type that would ask for choreo before or school books before class, and spends hours learning it so when I showed up to class I never looked stupid.

Additionally, any advice on how to enjoy sex? The dream would to someone I want to fuck all the time & have good sex! I dont want to have sex with a million people, im never going to one night stand, but I just want to find a good person im sexually attracted to and want sex with.

Any advice appreciated!!! Thank you so much!!!