I really like this guy, but…. /u/TatterTottie Sex

So I’m (27F) African American, and my guy is (23) white male. we’ve been dating for a few months. I LOVE everything about him. The simple/small things matter to him, like they do for me. He’s smart, funny, compassionate, creative, and sinfully sexy. Just all around a great guy. I love spending time with him and can be myself with him. Everything is great, but the sex was not so great. We’ve recently had sex for the first time. Neither one of us has dated interracially prior to this, so I’m sure the excitement played a role (nervousness, anxiousness, and excitement), as well as anticipation. Which is why I was sure to add it to the detailing of the submission. Because I can’t lie, it played a major part for me. I was extremely nervous and anxious. Far more than my usual nervousness/anxiousness. So by the time we got to third base, I was wrapped around his finger.

But basically, he pulled it out, we did a lot of foreplay (which was absolutely amazing) and then when he stuck it in, he literally jack-rabbited for two minutes and came and then apologized. Twice. The second time was supposed to be his redemption round. The spectacular foreplay balanced everything out, but I’m used and really enjoy slow, sensual, sex that builds momentum, not straight full force pistoning 🥴. Like hard and fast as hell. Therefore, I didn’t truly get to enjoy a buildup or even climax during intercourse. Granted, he was truly embarrassed, stating he prepped himself up and attempted to prepare for the event, so he was truly disheartened that he came as fast as he did and that it happened as fast as it did. But everything else, was great. I don’t think I’ve ever experienced better head. I specified to him the kind of experience I was into and he seemed to share a liking for the same thing, so it seemed as though we were on the same wave length. I know he has insecurities with his manhood size. In my opinion, he’s pretty average (5-6 inches when hard) and quite frankly, as a smaller woman, that works for me. I don’t need a man to be 12-13’ for me to feel something. So I’m stuck between blaming it on excitement and him trying to over-compensate for “being too small for me” (in his mind). So my question is, should I bring it up to him from now? Or should I blame it on nerves/excitement and wait to see if it’s the same the next time around and then confront him?

So I’m (27F) African American, and my guy is (23) white male. we’ve been dating for a few months. I LOVE everything about him. The simple/small things matter to him, like they do for me. He’s smart, funny, compassionate, creative, and sinfully sexy. Just all around a great guy. I love spending time with him and can be myself with him. Everything is great, but the sex was not so great. We’ve recently had sex for the first time. Neither one of us has dated interracially prior to this, so I’m sure the excitement played a role (nervousness, anxiousness, and excitement), as well as anticipation. Which is why I was sure to add it to the detailing of the submission. Because I can’t lie, it played a major part for me. I was extremely nervous and anxious. Far more than my usual nervousness/anxiousness. So by the time we got to third base, I was wrapped around his finger.

But basically, he pulled it out, we did a lot of foreplay (which was absolutely amazing) and then when he stuck it in, he literally jack-rabbited for two minutes and came and then apologized. Twice. The second time was supposed to be his redemption round. The spectacular foreplay balanced everything out, but I’m used and really enjoy slow, sensual, sex that builds momentum, not straight full force pistoning 🥴. Like hard and fast as hell. Therefore, I didn’t truly get to enjoy a buildup or even climax during intercourse. Granted, he was truly embarrassed, stating he prepped himself up and attempted to prepare for the event, so he was truly disheartened that he came as fast as he did and that it happened as fast as it did. But everything else, was great. I don’t think I’ve ever experienced better head. I specified to him the kind of experience I was into and he seemed to share a liking for the same thing, so it seemed as though we were on the same wave length. I know he has insecurities with his manhood size. In my opinion, he’s pretty average (5-6 inches when hard) and quite frankly, as a smaller woman, that works for me. I don’t need a man to be 12-13’ for me to feel something. So I’m stuck between blaming it on excitement and him trying to over-compensate for “being too small for me” (in his mind). So my question is, should I bring it up to him from now? Or should I blame it on nerves/excitement and wait to see if it’s the same the next time around and then confront him?