Bf cannot let go during sex? /u/legoonax Sex

I’m NT (28F) bf has aspergers (35M)

I am a passionate woman and I like raw sex. My bf is quite uptight about it, first thing he does after sex is change sheets. During sex I am not sure how much he can let go vs. he is thinking if we are making the sheets dirty etc. Sex is always the same position (missionary), the position itself I like, but it’s the lack of openness and spontaneity that gets to me. He also doesn’t express that he desires me non-verbally, verbally it’s also only once in a while. The focus is never on me, he has no idea how to focus on me and asking for it feels weird. I have asked for it in the past and either nothing happened or he got bored. I can see the situation is frustrating for me and he might feel guilty but doesn’t know how to fix it, and it is nearly impossible to have a conversation about it. When we do it is only me talking and he shuts down.

Any insight or advice? Ps. Breaking up is not advice, i am looking for actual help on this.

I’m NT (28F) bf has aspergers (35M)

I am a passionate woman and I like raw sex. My bf is quite uptight about it, first thing he does after sex is change sheets. During sex I am not sure how much he can let go vs. he is thinking if we are making the sheets dirty etc. Sex is always the same position (missionary), the position itself I like, but it’s the lack of openness and spontaneity that gets to me. He also doesn’t express that he desires me non-verbally, verbally it’s also only once in a while. The focus is never on me, he has no idea how to focus on me and asking for it feels weird. I have asked for it in the past and either nothing happened or he got bored. I can see the situation is frustrating for me and he might feel guilty but doesn’t know how to fix it, and it is nearly impossible to have a conversation about it. When we do it is only me talking and he shuts down.

Any insight or advice? Ps. Breaking up is not advice, i am looking for actual help on this.