I (30F) found some ‘Teen’ specific sites on the website history of my long term partner (36M) laptop. Just a few websites, in amongst other more generic porn sites. I did a quick google and the websites look professional and explicitly say 18+. Most of the women actually look older – could be my age to be honest.
However, this has really concerned me. Not because he watches porn (no judgement) but that this specific category is showing up within it.
When I asked him about it he said he doesn’t recognise any of the sites listed, but can’t say that he hasn’t ‘clicked through to them’ when browsing other sites, which he informs me can happen. He reassures me that he closes any site or video if ‘anything feels unsafe or just off.’
He showed me the sites he does use, which is nothing particularly kinky, definitely not teen focussed, all quite vanilla.
I asked him if I looked through his whole browsing history would I see him overtly searching ‘teen’ content, he says no, he hasn’t searched it, but that the ‘teen’ tag is very commonly used in porn so he can’t guarantee in the entirety of his watch history it wouldn’t appear. He said he also quite probably would have clicked on that particular category at some point, possibly a number of times, but definitely not routinely. He estimates that 99 times out of a 100 the videos he watches would have nothing to do with that category.
He listened to me explain why it is very concerning for me, and said he completely understands, and that he had not thought of it as being so concerning before. He says he will absolutely make sure he never engages with anything of the sort in the future.
He has been patient and answered a lot of questions. We’ve been together for 6 years and other than this he has been an amazing, trustworthy, open partner. But this is nagging at me. I would be totally fine to see many other types of content, but as a woman, there’s something about this category that feels off.
Am I over reacting? Is it normal for men to occasionally stray to this category? Does anything else he said seem off to you?
It’s really weighing on me because I wasn’t expecting it. Please help!
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r/sex I (30F) found some ‘Teen’ specific sites on the website history of my long term partner (36M) laptop. Just a few websites, in amongst other more generic porn sites. I did a quick google and the websites look professional and explicitly say 18+. Most of the women actually look older – could be my age to be honest. However, this has really concerned me. Not because he watches porn (no judgement) but that this specific category is showing up within it. When I asked him about it he said he doesn’t recognise any of the sites listed, but can’t say that he hasn’t ‘clicked through to them’ when browsing other sites, which he informs me can happen. He reassures me that he closes any site or video if ‘anything feels unsafe or just off.’ He showed me the sites he does use, which is nothing particularly kinky, definitely not teen focussed, all quite vanilla. I asked him if I looked through his whole browsing history would I see him overtly searching ‘teen’ content, he says no, he hasn’t searched it, but that the ‘teen’ tag is very commonly used in porn so he can’t guarantee in the entirety of his watch history it wouldn’t appear. He said he also quite probably would have clicked on that particular category at some point, possibly a number of times, but definitely not routinely. He estimates that 99 times out of a 100 the videos he watches would have nothing to do with that category. He listened to me explain why it is very concerning for me, and said he completely understands, and that he had not thought of it as being so concerning before. He says he will absolutely make sure he never engages with anything of the sort in the future. He has been patient and answered a lot of questions. We’ve been together for 6 years and other than this he has been an amazing, trustworthy, open partner. But this is nagging at me. I would be totally fine to see many other types of content, but as a woman, there’s something about this category that feels off. Am I over reacting? Is it normal for men to occasionally stray to this category? Does anything else he said seem off to you? It’s really weighing on me because I wasn’t expecting it. Please help! submitted by /u/Sea_Significance_968 [link] [comments]
I (30F) found some ‘Teen’ specific sites on the website history of my long term partner (36M) laptop. Just a few websites, in amongst other more generic porn sites. I did a quick google and the websites look professional and explicitly say 18+. Most of the women actually look older – could be my age to be honest.
However, this has really concerned me. Not because he watches porn (no judgement) but that this specific category is showing up within it.
When I asked him about it he said he doesn’t recognise any of the sites listed, but can’t say that he hasn’t ‘clicked through to them’ when browsing other sites, which he informs me can happen. He reassures me that he closes any site or video if ‘anything feels unsafe or just off.’
He showed me the sites he does use, which is nothing particularly kinky, definitely not teen focussed, all quite vanilla.
I asked him if I looked through his whole browsing history would I see him overtly searching ‘teen’ content, he says no, he hasn’t searched it, but that the ‘teen’ tag is very commonly used in porn so he can’t guarantee in the entirety of his watch history it wouldn’t appear. He said he also quite probably would have clicked on that particular category at some point, possibly a number of times, but definitely not routinely. He estimates that 99 times out of a 100 the videos he watches would have nothing to do with that category.
He listened to me explain why it is very concerning for me, and said he completely understands, and that he had not thought of it as being so concerning before. He says he will absolutely make sure he never engages with anything of the sort in the future.
He has been patient and answered a lot of questions. We’ve been together for 6 years and other than this he has been an amazing, trustworthy, open partner. But this is nagging at me. I would be totally fine to see many other types of content, but as a woman, there’s something about this category that feels off.
Am I over reacting? Is it normal for men to occasionally stray to this category? Does anything else he said seem off to you?
It’s really weighing on me because I wasn’t expecting it. Please help!
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