I want to be into sex/have more sex but I’m a non-chalant and don’t think I’m a sexual person /u/Low-Succotash-7791 Sex

I’m 25F and I don’t think/know that I am a sexual person.

A little background about me, I’m straight and am sexually and romantically interested in men. My ‘body count’ is 4 people, and I only really had sex with 1 of them. The other 3 was just oral.

None of the sex that I have had was spectacular. I blame it on the fact that 3 of the men were college one night stands. I might not have been relaxed because I didn’t know them, but I knew I wanted to have sex.

The only man I’ve actually had sex with was a childhood friend I’ve known for a long time. I was 19 and I was an in tune with my body then as I am now. I was overweight and had irregular periods, I overthink about being pregnant, and truthfully I just probably wasn’t in the right mental & physical state to handle the responsibilities of sex. I was also still in college.

Now being 25, ‘post’ pandemic, and living on my own, I’m ready to finally have a sex life. I’m not a virgin but I feel like one. My sexual experiences are low and not that great so I feel as though I’m not that experienced and damn near a virgin. Since being 19, my period is regular, and I understand my body/vagina way more.

I’m ready to have more sex but I don’t think I’m a sexual person. I see women wearing lingerie, being submissive, being dogged out by men, etc while having sex. I don’t link shame, but I just know that’s just not my vibe. I’m a calm/nonchalant person and sex is sometimes so barbaric and vulnerable that I don’t know how comfortable I am with that.

Im also interested in dating more but I only want to date men within my collegiate alumni network. It’s easier for me that way. Im just wondering if there are any other non-chalant/late bloomers who have had similar experiences.

I’m 25F and I don’t think/know that I am a sexual person.

A little background about me, I’m straight and am sexually and romantically interested in men. My ‘body count’ is 4 people, and I only really had sex with 1 of them. The other 3 was just oral.

None of the sex that I have had was spectacular. I blame it on the fact that 3 of the men were college one night stands. I might not have been relaxed because I didn’t know them, but I knew I wanted to have sex.

The only man I’ve actually had sex with was a childhood friend I’ve known for a long time. I was 19 and I was an in tune with my body then as I am now. I was overweight and had irregular periods, I overthink about being pregnant, and truthfully I just probably wasn’t in the right mental & physical state to handle the responsibilities of sex. I was also still in college.

Now being 25, ‘post’ pandemic, and living on my own, I’m ready to finally have a sex life. I’m not a virgin but I feel like one. My sexual experiences are low and not that great so I feel as though I’m not that experienced and damn near a virgin. Since being 19, my period is regular, and I understand my body/vagina way more.

I’m ready to have more sex but I don’t think I’m a sexual person. I see women wearing lingerie, being submissive, being dogged out by men, etc while having sex. I don’t link shame, but I just know that’s just not my vibe. I’m a calm/nonchalant person and sex is sometimes so barbaric and vulnerable that I don’t know how comfortable I am with that.

Im also interested in dating more but I only want to date men within my collegiate alumni network. It’s easier for me that way. Im just wondering if there are any other non-chalant/late bloomers who have had similar experiences.