I had a threesome at a party and I ruined a close friendship, advice needed /u/Ceciduck Sex

Hi all,

I recently had a threesome at a party with my bf and another girl who we were friends with.

One of my friends who attended the party the day after was extremely mad at me and called me vile, disgusting and said we made the party into a brothel. The only thing she saw was us three kissing and nothing more. We didn’t do anything other than that in front of her and there was plenty of other people kissing at the party.

Everyone else was 100% okay with it after and said nothing we three did bothered them in the slightest. I had a conversation in which I apologised if anything I did had made her uncomfortable and promised I would take note and not do anything similar around her again. I called her out for name calling me and asked her why she didn’t at any point go into a different room (there was people throughout the house).

It was almost like she wanted to argue and argue, anything I said was dismissed. I’m a people pleaser and felt really terrible for hurting my friend unintentionally. I apologised and apologised until she finally became okay with me again we’ve been on okay terms since.

A few weeks later she calls me at midnight and wakes me. She tells me she’s stranded in a city an hour away after missing the last train after her date. I’m unable to come drive to pick her up as I explain I have to wake up early to take my younger brother to school as both my parents are waking up for work at 5am. I suggest a bus route I know which takes her at least half the way home and I know she has enough money if needed to take a taxi. She’s 19 and not in an unfamiliar place she didn’t sound extremely worried on the phone (I could be wrong here as I was half asleep)

A few days later she’s annoyed and upset that I couldn’t give her a lift and I sounded like I didn’t care. She asked if I knew anyone else who could give her a lift and I said no on the phone. I simply didn’t know anyone and she’s annoyed that I didn’t suggest anyone who could.

I’ve been beating myself up and I immediately jumped into apologising for my actions although my other friends have stated I was not in the wrong for either situation and I need to stand my ground and leave the friendship for my own sake.

I really want an honest unbiased answer, if I’m the asshole I’d really like to learn from my actions so I can take the steps to be better, or have the confirmation I need to stand up for myself and not let myself be a doormat.

Am I in the wrong here, for both situations?

Thank you.

Hi all,

I recently had a threesome at a party with my bf and another girl who we were friends with.

One of my friends who attended the party the day after was extremely mad at me and called me vile, disgusting and said we made the party into a brothel. The only thing she saw was us three kissing and nothing more. We didn’t do anything other than that in front of her and there was plenty of other people kissing at the party.

Everyone else was 100% okay with it after and said nothing we three did bothered them in the slightest. I had a conversation in which I apologised if anything I did had made her uncomfortable and promised I would take note and not do anything similar around her again. I called her out for name calling me and asked her why she didn’t at any point go into a different room (there was people throughout the house).

It was almost like she wanted to argue and argue, anything I said was dismissed. I’m a people pleaser and felt really terrible for hurting my friend unintentionally. I apologised and apologised until she finally became okay with me again we’ve been on okay terms since.

A few weeks later she calls me at midnight and wakes me. She tells me she’s stranded in a city an hour away after missing the last train after her date. I’m unable to come drive to pick her up as I explain I have to wake up early to take my younger brother to school as both my parents are waking up for work at 5am. I suggest a bus route I know which takes her at least half the way home and I know she has enough money if needed to take a taxi. She’s 19 and not in an unfamiliar place she didn’t sound extremely worried on the phone (I could be wrong here as I was half asleep)

A few days later she’s annoyed and upset that I couldn’t give her a lift and I sounded like I didn’t care. She asked if I knew anyone else who could give her a lift and I said no on the phone. I simply didn’t know anyone and she’s annoyed that I didn’t suggest anyone who could.

I’ve been beating myself up and I immediately jumped into apologising for my actions although my other friends have stated I was not in the wrong for either situation and I need to stand my ground and leave the friendship for my own sake.

I really want an honest unbiased answer, if I’m the asshole I’d really like to learn from my actions so I can take the steps to be better, or have the confirmation I need to stand up for myself and not let myself be a doormat.

Am I in the wrong here, for both situations?

Thank you.