My partner appears to have a very insensitive penis despite being uncut, possibly from death grip (prior porn addiction and dead bedroom, basically no experience with a partner). It’s not a matter of him cumming, he eventually does regardless of method. It’s more that I’m unsure how to actually touch him – he grinds very aggressively, even when I’m still clothed and he isn’t, it’s difficult to imagine that it doesn’t hurt. Or he guides me to do dry handjobs. I’m not sure if he doesn’t know better, basically. Previous partners were far more sensitive and had more foreskin (he basically has none to spare when erect) to move around, so the head wasn’t as exposed. I’m not bothered by it, it just makes me insecure because it feels like it should hurt or at the very least, keep him at that insensitive level. Also, I can’t really apply pressure because of the friction (plus, it actually hurts the skin of my hands lol). I already use spit as lube or give him a very wet bj beforehand, which seems to be an improvement for him, but he keeps up the grinding or dry handjobs. Note that he doesn’t cum from that, it’s either PIV, oil massage, bj (all not very dry/friction-y) or him jacking himself off (which looks very death grip like), so I’m not sure he’s actually dependent on that much friction but is clearly used to it for masturbation.
We have talked about it, but I’m not sure if he’s being “diplomatic” because of past bad experiences.
I’m interested in learning how to explore this with him, to find out what he actually likes and isn’t merely settling for due to lack of experience.
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r/sex My partner appears to have a very insensitive penis despite being uncut, possibly from death grip (prior porn addiction and dead bedroom, basically no experience with a partner). It’s not a matter of him cumming, he eventually does regardless of method. It’s more that I’m unsure how to actually touch him – he grinds very aggressively, even when I’m still clothed and he isn’t, it’s difficult to imagine that it doesn’t hurt. Or he guides me to do dry handjobs. I’m not sure if he doesn’t know better, basically. Previous partners were far more sensitive and had more foreskin (he basically has none to spare when erect) to move around, so the head wasn’t as exposed. I’m not bothered by it, it just makes me insecure because it feels like it should hurt or at the very least, keep him at that insensitive level. Also, I can’t really apply pressure because of the friction (plus, it actually hurts the skin of my hands lol). I already use spit as lube or give him a very wet bj beforehand, which seems to be an improvement for him, but he keeps up the grinding or dry handjobs. Note that he doesn’t cum from that, it’s either PIV, oil massage, bj (all not very dry/friction-y) or him jacking himself off (which looks very death grip like), so I’m not sure he’s actually dependent on that much friction but is clearly used to it for masturbation. We have talked about it, but I’m not sure if he’s being “diplomatic” because of past bad experiences. I’m interested in learning how to explore this with him, to find out what he actually likes and isn’t merely settling for due to lack of experience. submitted by /u/Definitive_Capybara [link] [comments]
My partner appears to have a very insensitive penis despite being uncut, possibly from death grip (prior porn addiction and dead bedroom, basically no experience with a partner). It’s not a matter of him cumming, he eventually does regardless of method. It’s more that I’m unsure how to actually touch him – he grinds very aggressively, even when I’m still clothed and he isn’t, it’s difficult to imagine that it doesn’t hurt. Or he guides me to do dry handjobs. I’m not sure if he doesn’t know better, basically. Previous partners were far more sensitive and had more foreskin (he basically has none to spare when erect) to move around, so the head wasn’t as exposed. I’m not bothered by it, it just makes me insecure because it feels like it should hurt or at the very least, keep him at that insensitive level. Also, I can’t really apply pressure because of the friction (plus, it actually hurts the skin of my hands lol). I already use spit as lube or give him a very wet bj beforehand, which seems to be an improvement for him, but he keeps up the grinding or dry handjobs. Note that he doesn’t cum from that, it’s either PIV, oil massage, bj (all not very dry/friction-y) or him jacking himself off (which looks very death grip like), so I’m not sure he’s actually dependent on that much friction but is clearly used to it for masturbation.
We have talked about it, but I’m not sure if he’s being “diplomatic” because of past bad experiences.
I’m interested in learning how to explore this with him, to find out what he actually likes and isn’t merely settling for due to lack of experience.
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