Do you lose sexual interest in your partner after having been together for many years? Two questions: (1) Is it because she’s familiar now and there’s nothing exciting left? (2) How did you rekindle the flame, assuming you wanted to keep it going? /u/Miss_KMoney Sex

32 year-old woman here. Been with my husband for 11 years. Sex was phenomenal in the beginning, after 2 years it went downhill. No particular reason, but he was the same with his ex of 5 years. I held on because I love him. I haven’t changed physically, as far as I’m aware. I dance several hours a week (primarily ballet, but also salsa and afrobeats). I stay in shape. I’ve been throwing myself at him and feel like a total moron only to be rejected time and time again.

I get attention from other men I wish my husband would give me. I’d be a fool to divorce him because he’s my best friend and truly a gem (albeit not in the coitus department), but I’m at my wit’s end. If we do have sex, he ejaculates too soon. I can go on for an hour and have multiple orgasms…I can’t even remember the last time I peaked during intercourse. Our libidos simply don’t match and I’ve run out of ideas on how to fix this problem. I’ve asked my male and female friends about their sex drives after turning 30 and if they’ve lost the desire, and it appears only my husband’s is now non-existent. My mistake was underestimating how much I value and enjoy sex, and here we are…

32 year-old woman here. Been with my husband for 11 years. Sex was phenomenal in the beginning, after 2 years it went downhill. No particular reason, but he was the same with his ex of 5 years. I held on because I love him. I haven’t changed physically, as far as I’m aware. I dance several hours a week (primarily ballet, but also salsa and afrobeats). I stay in shape. I’ve been throwing myself at him and feel like a total moron only to be rejected time and time again.

I get attention from other men I wish my husband would give me. I’d be a fool to divorce him because he’s my best friend and truly a gem (albeit not in the coitus department), but I’m at my wit’s end. If we do have sex, he ejaculates too soon. I can go on for an hour and have multiple orgasms…I can’t even remember the last time I peaked during intercourse. Our libidos simply don’t match and I’ve run out of ideas on how to fix this problem. I’ve asked my male and female friends about their sex drives after turning 30 and if they’ve lost the desire, and it appears only my husband’s is now non-existent. My mistake was underestimating how much I value and enjoy sex, and here we are…