Should I [27F] trust the most common views that are expressed online, on Reddit and on this subreddit. Or should I trust the views of the people in my life? [33F] [62F] [56M] /u/talkingtoyourmother Sex

Basically I believe the following things (about people in a general sense, I don’t mean these apply to every man and woman):

I believe that it’s thought that sexism towards women is so much more common than sexism towards men, across the world and throughout history. (But my parents and sister told me it is more common but not so much more and that sexism is not about hating women nor seeing them as lesser inferior beings, that it’s about men having had the roles of power, because they were stronger so exerted strength to get them, etc. But that women were also thought to have a just as important role, in the home.)

I believe it’s thought that women like men as a gender more than men like women as a gender due to this. Because people think sexism means mistreating, hating, etc. And that it’s thought women treat men better and with more respect.

I believe it’s thought that women like men in a more well rounded way than men like women, because of sexism and because because people think men objectify women and that if you took sex away… men would prefer men in all other ways (they think women are unfunny, they think that men are superior, etc.)

I believe it’s thought that sexism towards men is only a thing as backlash against sexism towards women. So women who hate men hate them for how men treat women.

I believe traditional roles are not seen as equal but different and are instead seen as representing a belief that women are incapable and to serve men.

I believe that when men do typically female hobbies and jobs women propel them to success and praise them for the bare minimum (which they wouldn’t do for a woman with the same skills), like drag queens and gay male makeup artists. But women doing typically male jobs or hobbies are held to higher standards, have to prove themselves more, are not given the same support and are even verbally abused (Female gamers, female Mps, in sport, etc.)

I believe it’s thought that women hate each other, get jealous and have internalised misogny, but that men have stronger bonds, friendships and camaraderie. (Even though my psychologist told me that it’s instead believed that women mostly support each other.)

My parents and sister told me I was wrong about all of these things and that most people don’t think these things, my sister identifies as a feminist herself. But I asked this on this very subreddit and they said my beliefs are “extremely common.” And everybody on here tells me this whenever I have asked. Why the contrast? What are your opinions?

(They also said Reddit is an echo chamber & confirmation bias and that most normal people don’t interact with strangers online and wouldn’t go on Reddit.)

Basically I believe the following things (about people in a general sense, I don’t mean these apply to every man and woman):

I believe that it’s thought that sexism towards women is so much more common than sexism towards men, across the world and throughout history. (But my parents and sister told me it is more common but not so much more and that sexism is not about hating women nor seeing them as lesser inferior beings, that it’s about men having had the roles of power, because they were stronger so exerted strength to get them, etc. But that women were also thought to have a just as important role, in the home.)

I believe it’s thought that women like men as a gender more than men like women as a gender due to this. Because people think sexism means mistreating, hating, etc. And that it’s thought women treat men better and with more respect.

I believe it’s thought that women like men in a more well rounded way than men like women, because of sexism and because because people think men objectify women and that if you took sex away… men would prefer men in all other ways (they think women are unfunny, they think that men are superior, etc.)

I believe it’s thought that sexism towards men is only a thing as backlash against sexism towards women. So women who hate men hate them for how men treat women.

I believe traditional roles are not seen as equal but different and are instead seen as representing a belief that women are incapable and to serve men.

I believe that when men do typically female hobbies and jobs women propel them to success and praise them for the bare minimum (which they wouldn’t do for a woman with the same skills), like drag queens and gay male makeup artists. But women doing typically male jobs or hobbies are held to higher standards, have to prove themselves more, are not given the same support and are even verbally abused (Female gamers, female Mps, in sport, etc.)

I believe it’s thought that women hate each other, get jealous and have internalised misogny, but that men have stronger bonds, friendships and camaraderie. (Even though my psychologist told me that it’s instead believed that women mostly support each other.)

My parents and sister told me I was wrong about all of these things and that most people don’t think these things, my sister identifies as a feminist herself. But I asked this on this very subreddit and they said my beliefs are “extremely common.” And everybody on here tells me this whenever I have asked. Why the contrast? What are your opinions?

(They also said Reddit is an echo chamber & confirmation bias and that most normal people don’t interact with strangers online and wouldn’t go on Reddit.)