Hi everyone, I am dating a guy since last summer. Our sexual life is going really well. However, I have a bartholin cyst in my left labia (means, when I get horny during sex its getting swollen since the gland is blocked and the fluid is not able to go out). So I feel like my vagina doesnt look sexy. So when we have sex, I always ask to turn off the light so he doesn’t see it. And i am telling him that its because i am a shy person, I am insecure about my vagina. But I dont know how long it will last. Because he always tells me I should not feel shy and he wants to see my vagina, have sex with the light on.
He also does oral sex to me, I think he has noticed it a bit, but doesnt say much. He only asked me once if my vaginal area gets swollen during sex, i said yes..
I want to be comfortable with him, not feel shy, not feel insecure. I stress about it, and it also effects on me getting wet.
I dont know how to tell him, having a bit fear that because of that he might not want to date with me anymore. Maybe its stupid to think that way.
Any suggestions how to solve this issue first with myself and being open with him..
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r/sex Hi everyone, I am dating a guy since last summer. Our sexual life is going really well. However, I have a bartholin cyst in my left labia (means, when I get horny during sex its getting swollen since the gland is blocked and the fluid is not able to go out). So I feel like my vagina doesnt look sexy. So when we have sex, I always ask to turn off the light so he doesn’t see it. And i am telling him that its because i am a shy person, I am insecure about my vagina. But I dont know how long it will last. Because he always tells me I should not feel shy and he wants to see my vagina, have sex with the light on. He also does oral sex to me, I think he has noticed it a bit, but doesnt say much. He only asked me once if my vaginal area gets swollen during sex, i said yes.. I want to be comfortable with him, not feel shy, not feel insecure. I stress about it, and it also effects on me getting wet. I dont know how to tell him, having a bit fear that because of that he might not want to date with me anymore. Maybe its stupid to think that way. Any suggestions how to solve this issue first with myself and being open with him.. submitted by /u/Adventurous_Bet_5450 [link] [comments]
Hi everyone, I am dating a guy since last summer. Our sexual life is going really well. However, I have a bartholin cyst in my left labia (means, when I get horny during sex its getting swollen since the gland is blocked and the fluid is not able to go out). So I feel like my vagina doesnt look sexy. So when we have sex, I always ask to turn off the light so he doesn’t see it. And i am telling him that its because i am a shy person, I am insecure about my vagina. But I dont know how long it will last. Because he always tells me I should not feel shy and he wants to see my vagina, have sex with the light on.
He also does oral sex to me, I think he has noticed it a bit, but doesnt say much. He only asked me once if my vaginal area gets swollen during sex, i said yes..
I want to be comfortable with him, not feel shy, not feel insecure. I stress about it, and it also effects on me getting wet.
I dont know how to tell him, having a bit fear that because of that he might not want to date with me anymore. Maybe its stupid to think that way.
Any suggestions how to solve this issue first with myself and being open with him..
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