My girlfriend [29F] and I [31M] live in different states. While we were seeing each other casually, she emphasized multiple times that she cannot imagine herself being monogamous. She had multiple partners at that stage. However, at some point we became exclusive and she told me she does not see her having sex with other people any more. Fast forward two years and we see each other mainly during weekends as we stil live in different cities. She is on the pill so we do not use condoms at all. Last week I found one condom missing from the box at her place. I asked her gently about it and she offered an explanation. There was raw emotion, some anger about my doubt (that she interpreted as accusation), and tears about my distrust.
She basically told me she put it on a dildo when she was masturbating. I replied she did not ask me to put one when we played with it earlier. To this she replied she used it anally (we never used it that way, but we do anal). Her explanation bugs me a lot and because I was planning to progress this relationship into something really serious (moving states, getting married, etc.), but am really unsure now.
I would like to ask you guys about your opinion and recommendation. How unusal is it to use condoms on silicone vibrators when girls play with themselves? Also, I would appreciate it a lot if you had any advice on how to check, question or talk to her about it again.
I cannot stop thinking about this and I do not want to make a huge mistake in my life. I love her, but cannot live in a lie :/
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r/sex My girlfriend [29F] and I [31M] live in different states. While we were seeing each other casually, she emphasized multiple times that she cannot imagine herself being monogamous. She had multiple partners at that stage. However, at some point we became exclusive and she told me she does not see her having sex with other people any more. Fast forward two years and we see each other mainly during weekends as we stil live in different cities. She is on the pill so we do not use condoms at all. Last week I found one condom missing from the box at her place. I asked her gently about it and she offered an explanation. There was raw emotion, some anger about my doubt (that she interpreted as accusation), and tears about my distrust. She basically told me she put it on a dildo when she was masturbating. I replied she did not ask me to put one when we played with it earlier. To this she replied she used it anally (we never used it that way, but we do anal). Her explanation bugs me a lot and because I was planning to progress this relationship into something really serious (moving states, getting married, etc.), but am really unsure now. I would like to ask you guys about your opinion and recommendation. How unusal is it to use condoms on silicone vibrators when girls play with themselves? Also, I would appreciate it a lot if you had any advice on how to check, question or talk to her about it again. I cannot stop thinking about this and I do not want to make a huge mistake in my life. I love her, but cannot live in a lie :/ submitted by /u/Pretty_Following_898 [link] [comments]
My girlfriend [29F] and I [31M] live in different states. While we were seeing each other casually, she emphasized multiple times that she cannot imagine herself being monogamous. She had multiple partners at that stage. However, at some point we became exclusive and she told me she does not see her having sex with other people any more. Fast forward two years and we see each other mainly during weekends as we stil live in different cities. She is on the pill so we do not use condoms at all. Last week I found one condom missing from the box at her place. I asked her gently about it and she offered an explanation. There was raw emotion, some anger about my doubt (that she interpreted as accusation), and tears about my distrust.
She basically told me she put it on a dildo when she was masturbating. I replied she did not ask me to put one when we played with it earlier. To this she replied she used it anally (we never used it that way, but we do anal). Her explanation bugs me a lot and because I was planning to progress this relationship into something really serious (moving states, getting married, etc.), but am really unsure now.
I would like to ask you guys about your opinion and recommendation. How unusal is it to use condoms on silicone vibrators when girls play with themselves? Also, I would appreciate it a lot if you had any advice on how to check, question or talk to her about it again.
I cannot stop thinking about this and I do not want to make a huge mistake in my life. I love her, but cannot live in a lie :/
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