Hi! Sorry about strange formatting as I’m on my phone. The title basically sums it up but I (f26) have a problem and I need to understand if this is worth investigating further or if I’m not the only one like this.
So, I love everything about sex. Thinking about it, reading smut/erotica, listening and watching videos, talking about it freely, imagining stuff, you name it, I love that. However when’s time to act I’m completely dry, perhaps not in the mood as well or “repulsed” by it.
I haven’t had any trauma linked to sex, and it wasn’t always like this. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 years now (m26) and on top of being very sexual, he is an amazing lover. I know I feel good when I’m with him. I love to imagine him doing things to me. But when we’re actually having it, it’s another story and again, I can’t for the life of me feel like starting. I end up going down on him and not feeling the need to take it further even if he asks to reciprocate or doing what I like. He has his flaws (for example: when we’re not being sexual I hate getting my breasts touched, can’t stand it, and he does it anyway sometimes but I usually stand my ground and he apologizes).
Is this type of thing something any of you guys ever had to deal with? I want to want sex. But it seems like I’m doing something wrong.
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r/sex Hi! Sorry about strange formatting as I’m on my phone. The title basically sums it up but I (f26) have a problem and I need to understand if this is worth investigating further or if I’m not the only one like this. So, I love everything about sex. Thinking about it, reading smut/erotica, listening and watching videos, talking about it freely, imagining stuff, you name it, I love that. However when’s time to act I’m completely dry, perhaps not in the mood as well or “repulsed” by it. I haven’t had any trauma linked to sex, and it wasn’t always like this. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 years now (m26) and on top of being very sexual, he is an amazing lover. I know I feel good when I’m with him. I love to imagine him doing things to me. But when we’re actually having it, it’s another story and again, I can’t for the life of me feel like starting. I end up going down on him and not feeling the need to take it further even if he asks to reciprocate or doing what I like. He has his flaws (for example: when we’re not being sexual I hate getting my breasts touched, can’t stand it, and he does it anyway sometimes but I usually stand my ground and he apologizes). Is this type of thing something any of you guys ever had to deal with? I want to want sex. But it seems like I’m doing something wrong. submitted by /u/Volpeculae [link] [comments]
Hi! Sorry about strange formatting as I’m on my phone. The title basically sums it up but I (f26) have a problem and I need to understand if this is worth investigating further or if I’m not the only one like this.
So, I love everything about sex. Thinking about it, reading smut/erotica, listening and watching videos, talking about it freely, imagining stuff, you name it, I love that. However when’s time to act I’m completely dry, perhaps not in the mood as well or “repulsed” by it.
I haven’t had any trauma linked to sex, and it wasn’t always like this. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 years now (m26) and on top of being very sexual, he is an amazing lover. I know I feel good when I’m with him. I love to imagine him doing things to me. But when we’re actually having it, it’s another story and again, I can’t for the life of me feel like starting. I end up going down on him and not feeling the need to take it further even if he asks to reciprocate or doing what I like. He has his flaws (for example: when we’re not being sexual I hate getting my breasts touched, can’t stand it, and he does it anyway sometimes but I usually stand my ground and he apologizes).
Is this type of thing something any of you guys ever had to deal with? I want to want sex. But it seems like I’m doing something wrong.
submitted by /u/Volpeculae
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