Me (f18) and my boyfriend (m19) are long distance and fly to each other every month or so, however I feel like lately I can’t keep up with his sex drive. This all started recently when I was sick for ten days and we didn’t do anything in that time (over the phone since I live across the country) and I could tell it was bothering him and it was straining our relationship. Ever since then I’m much more aware of the fact that I can’t keep up with his libido, we spend 3-6 hours on FaceTime everyday and I love it, but he wants to do it on the phone at least once or twice a day. I’m a full time student and managing all my coursework while still making time for him on top of working 20 hours a week to save money so that I can see him. I love him so much, and it’s not that I’m not attracted to him, I just feel guilty that I don’t want to do it. Idk if it just feels like a chore or what. I don’t particularly love doing it over the phone, I feel like there’s a lot of pressure to perform and come up with new things and tricks to make him happy, or get him off quicker. I haven’t really talked to him about it, the most I asked is if he would break up with me if we didn’t have sex, and his response was “I wouldn’t break up with you if we didn’t have sex, but I wouldn’t want to be in a sexless relationship because their usually loveless” which is understandable. I think I just don’t want to open that can of worms, we haven’t had any real issues since we started dating other than the usually “how is long distance going to work”, and what not. I want to not feel guilty that I don’t want to do it, because when he’s in the mood and I’m not and I let him hangup and deal with it, it ruins my night. And I think I would be more upset if I just did it for him because I felt guilty. It makes me feel like I’m not a good enough girlfriend or that I’m just not good enough if that makes sense? Our sex life is perfectly fine in person though, which makes it difficult.
(I love my boyfriend and he is the most devoted and caring man on the world aside from this, and he puts up with me which is saying a lot)
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r/sex Me (f18) and my boyfriend (m19) are long distance and fly to each other every month or so, however I feel like lately I can’t keep up with his sex drive. This all started recently when I was sick for ten days and we didn’t do anything in that time (over the phone since I live across the country) and I could tell it was bothering him and it was straining our relationship. Ever since then I’m much more aware of the fact that I can’t keep up with his libido, we spend 3-6 hours on FaceTime everyday and I love it, but he wants to do it on the phone at least once or twice a day. I’m a full time student and managing all my coursework while still making time for him on top of working 20 hours a week to save money so that I can see him. I love him so much, and it’s not that I’m not attracted to him, I just feel guilty that I don’t want to do it. Idk if it just feels like a chore or what. I don’t particularly love doing it over the phone, I feel like there’s a lot of pressure to perform and come up with new things and tricks to make him happy, or get him off quicker. I haven’t really talked to him about it, the most I asked is if he would break up with me if we didn’t have sex, and his response was “I wouldn’t break up with you if we didn’t have sex, but I wouldn’t want to be in a sexless relationship because their usually loveless” which is understandable. I think I just don’t want to open that can of worms, we haven’t had any real issues since we started dating other than the usually “how is long distance going to work”, and what not. I want to not feel guilty that I don’t want to do it, because when he’s in the mood and I’m not and I let him hangup and deal with it, it ruins my night. And I think I would be more upset if I just did it for him because I felt guilty. It makes me feel like I’m not a good enough girlfriend or that I’m just not good enough if that makes sense? Our sex life is perfectly fine in person though, which makes it difficult. (I love my boyfriend and he is the most devoted and caring man on the world aside from this, and he puts up with me which is saying a lot) submitted by /u/Emotionless_Sarah [link] [comments]
Me (f18) and my boyfriend (m19) are long distance and fly to each other every month or so, however I feel like lately I can’t keep up with his sex drive. This all started recently when I was sick for ten days and we didn’t do anything in that time (over the phone since I live across the country) and I could tell it was bothering him and it was straining our relationship. Ever since then I’m much more aware of the fact that I can’t keep up with his libido, we spend 3-6 hours on FaceTime everyday and I love it, but he wants to do it on the phone at least once or twice a day. I’m a full time student and managing all my coursework while still making time for him on top of working 20 hours a week to save money so that I can see him. I love him so much, and it’s not that I’m not attracted to him, I just feel guilty that I don’t want to do it. Idk if it just feels like a chore or what. I don’t particularly love doing it over the phone, I feel like there’s a lot of pressure to perform and come up with new things and tricks to make him happy, or get him off quicker. I haven’t really talked to him about it, the most I asked is if he would break up with me if we didn’t have sex, and his response was “I wouldn’t break up with you if we didn’t have sex, but I wouldn’t want to be in a sexless relationship because their usually loveless” which is understandable. I think I just don’t want to open that can of worms, we haven’t had any real issues since we started dating other than the usually “how is long distance going to work”, and what not. I want to not feel guilty that I don’t want to do it, because when he’s in the mood and I’m not and I let him hangup and deal with it, it ruins my night. And I think I would be more upset if I just did it for him because I felt guilty. It makes me feel like I’m not a good enough girlfriend or that I’m just not good enough if that makes sense? Our sex life is perfectly fine in person though, which makes it difficult.
(I love my boyfriend and he is the most devoted and caring man on the world aside from this, and he puts up with me which is saying a lot)
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