For context, I’m 23F. I’ve been sexual with two people, my ex and my current boyfriend. Me and my current boyfriend haven’t had sex in like 5-6 months.
Now I’m not sure if this is a case of, it’s been just bad sex or if I really don’t enjoy sex. I need some help. Lately I’ve been feeling like I don’t want to have sex because I don’t enjoy it. Now we have had some issues in our relationship regarding spending time on me, he would spend 5 mins max then want to go onto the main event and it would usually hurt. After pestering him for like a year and a half, there was no change so now I just don’t want sex. He initiates but I say no all the time.
Part of me feels like I should be having sex because that’s what every other twenty something year old is doing and they enjoy it. But I just dread it. Doing it is giving me like bad shivers. It makes me want to crawl into my own skin, I don’t know how else to describe it.
I also have a history of SA, my first partner would SA me a lot throughout our relationship and I know that left a bad taste in my mouth when it comes to sex.
So I really don’t know if this is a common reaction to having bad sex or if I genuinely don’t find it enjoyable. I don’t know what to do, any advice would be great…
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r/sex For context, I’m 23F. I’ve been sexual with two people, my ex and my current boyfriend. Me and my current boyfriend haven’t had sex in like 5-6 months. Now I’m not sure if this is a case of, it’s been just bad sex or if I really don’t enjoy sex. I need some help. Lately I’ve been feeling like I don’t want to have sex because I don’t enjoy it. Now we have had some issues in our relationship regarding spending time on me, he would spend 5 mins max then want to go onto the main event and it would usually hurt. After pestering him for like a year and a half, there was no change so now I just don’t want sex. He initiates but I say no all the time. Part of me feels like I should be having sex because that’s what every other twenty something year old is doing and they enjoy it. But I just dread it. Doing it is giving me like bad shivers. It makes me want to crawl into my own skin, I don’t know how else to describe it. I also have a history of SA, my first partner would SA me a lot throughout our relationship and I know that left a bad taste in my mouth when it comes to sex. So I really don’t know if this is a common reaction to having bad sex or if I genuinely don’t find it enjoyable. I don’t know what to do, any advice would be great… submitted by /u/throwaway__246788 [link] [comments]
For context, I’m 23F. I’ve been sexual with two people, my ex and my current boyfriend. Me and my current boyfriend haven’t had sex in like 5-6 months.
Now I’m not sure if this is a case of, it’s been just bad sex or if I really don’t enjoy sex. I need some help. Lately I’ve been feeling like I don’t want to have sex because I don’t enjoy it. Now we have had some issues in our relationship regarding spending time on me, he would spend 5 mins max then want to go onto the main event and it would usually hurt. After pestering him for like a year and a half, there was no change so now I just don’t want sex. He initiates but I say no all the time.
Part of me feels like I should be having sex because that’s what every other twenty something year old is doing and they enjoy it. But I just dread it. Doing it is giving me like bad shivers. It makes me want to crawl into my own skin, I don’t know how else to describe it.
I also have a history of SA, my first partner would SA me a lot throughout our relationship and I know that left a bad taste in my mouth when it comes to sex.
So I really don’t know if this is a common reaction to having bad sex or if I genuinely don’t find it enjoyable. I don’t know what to do, any advice would be great…
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