I (21F) and my boyfriend (30M) has always known I like to be more rough in bed compared to him. But the past year has been where I’ve been struggling with our intimacy despite having conversations. I love a dominant man in bed, but he’s only been wanting to do missionary for a couple minutes then goes to lay down so I can ride him so he can cum. No longer caring about my own pleasure, despite him telling me in the beginning “I always want to make you cum before I do”. And I’ll lay with him in bed after, not entirely satisfied, and I’ll occasionally tell him that I’d like for him to be a bit more rough and do things out of his norm. Nothing crazy or unreasonable, just something that isn’t vanilla and longer than 5 mins. And I recently told him again asking for him to be rougher and he said “it kinda turns me off when you want me to fuck you like that. What we normally do feels more intimate and better” And he says “I like it better when you initiate sex”. Which made me feel like he didn’t want to put effort into turning me on or making me feel wanted.
So I’m not sure what to do now, I’ve been resorting to my vibrator when I’m home alone to get my release, and sex feels like a chore now. Any make POV as to why this is how he views things? Or any advice is appreciated! Thank you 🙂
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r/sex I (21F) and my boyfriend (30M) has always known I like to be more rough in bed compared to him. But the past year has been where I’ve been struggling with our intimacy despite having conversations. I love a dominant man in bed, but he’s only been wanting to do missionary for a couple minutes then goes to lay down so I can ride him so he can cum. No longer caring about my own pleasure, despite him telling me in the beginning “I always want to make you cum before I do”. And I’ll lay with him in bed after, not entirely satisfied, and I’ll occasionally tell him that I’d like for him to be a bit more rough and do things out of his norm. Nothing crazy or unreasonable, just something that isn’t vanilla and longer than 5 mins. And I recently told him again asking for him to be rougher and he said “it kinda turns me off when you want me to fuck you like that. What we normally do feels more intimate and better” And he says “I like it better when you initiate sex”. Which made me feel like he didn’t want to put effort into turning me on or making me feel wanted. So I’m not sure what to do now, I’ve been resorting to my vibrator when I’m home alone to get my release, and sex feels like a chore now. Any make POV as to why this is how he views things? Or any advice is appreciated! Thank you 🙂 submitted by /u/cheddarini_ [link] [comments]
I (21F) and my boyfriend (30M) has always known I like to be more rough in bed compared to him. But the past year has been where I’ve been struggling with our intimacy despite having conversations. I love a dominant man in bed, but he’s only been wanting to do missionary for a couple minutes then goes to lay down so I can ride him so he can cum. No longer caring about my own pleasure, despite him telling me in the beginning “I always want to make you cum before I do”. And I’ll lay with him in bed after, not entirely satisfied, and I’ll occasionally tell him that I’d like for him to be a bit more rough and do things out of his norm. Nothing crazy or unreasonable, just something that isn’t vanilla and longer than 5 mins. And I recently told him again asking for him to be rougher and he said “it kinda turns me off when you want me to fuck you like that. What we normally do feels more intimate and better” And he says “I like it better when you initiate sex”. Which made me feel like he didn’t want to put effort into turning me on or making me feel wanted.
So I’m not sure what to do now, I’ve been resorting to my vibrator when I’m home alone to get my release, and sex feels like a chore now. Any make POV as to why this is how he views things? Or any advice is appreciated! Thank you 🙂
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