Me 40m with 38F. No kids, don’t live together and dating for 18 months. Semi long distance (an hour) and we see each other at least once every two weeks.
It started out fine, I’m higher libido and she was lower, but not to the extent that it was a problem. Pretty typical of most relationships I’ve had. But in recent months she has not been interested and rejected me now six times in a row and we had sex one time in the last three months (ballpark guess btw, I don’t keep a journal lol).
She doesn’t open up much about most things and I have given it time to build trust and connection but when trying to talk about this casually without making it a big issue she had nothing to say about it. She isn’t very good as expressing herself and talking about uncomfortable things so I thought it just might take time. Just “sometimes I’m not interested and not willing” and that’s all I get. I don’t expect either of us to want it all the time of course, but something changed and is at the point where I can’t continue the relationship like this because it feels like we’re just friends without the sexual side.
I just don’t know how to talk about it without making it a big issue and feeling like I’m putting pressure on her. As a separate issue possibly related, she never orgasms, isn’t bothered by that fact (so she says). I said that it’s important to me to have a healthy sex life in the relationship so I find it odd that she doesn’t orgasm and doesn’t seem to be willing to figure out why.
Mostly a vent to get some thoughts out, would appreciate some dialog if you know some common signs I may be missing
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r/sex Me 40m with 38F. No kids, don’t live together and dating for 18 months. Semi long distance (an hour) and we see each other at least once every two weeks. It started out fine, I’m higher libido and she was lower, but not to the extent that it was a problem. Pretty typical of most relationships I’ve had. But in recent months she has not been interested and rejected me now six times in a row and we had sex one time in the last three months (ballpark guess btw, I don’t keep a journal lol). She doesn’t open up much about most things and I have given it time to build trust and connection but when trying to talk about this casually without making it a big issue she had nothing to say about it. She isn’t very good as expressing herself and talking about uncomfortable things so I thought it just might take time. Just “sometimes I’m not interested and not willing” and that’s all I get. I don’t expect either of us to want it all the time of course, but something changed and is at the point where I can’t continue the relationship like this because it feels like we’re just friends without the sexual side. I just don’t know how to talk about it without making it a big issue and feeling like I’m putting pressure on her. As a separate issue possibly related, she never orgasms, isn’t bothered by that fact (so she says). I said that it’s important to me to have a healthy sex life in the relationship so I find it odd that she doesn’t orgasm and doesn’t seem to be willing to figure out why. Mostly a vent to get some thoughts out, would appreciate some dialog if you know some common signs I may be missing submitted by /u/Proper-Bonus-1007 [link] [comments]
Me 40m with 38F. No kids, don’t live together and dating for 18 months. Semi long distance (an hour) and we see each other at least once every two weeks.
It started out fine, I’m higher libido and she was lower, but not to the extent that it was a problem. Pretty typical of most relationships I’ve had. But in recent months she has not been interested and rejected me now six times in a row and we had sex one time in the last three months (ballpark guess btw, I don’t keep a journal lol).
She doesn’t open up much about most things and I have given it time to build trust and connection but when trying to talk about this casually without making it a big issue she had nothing to say about it. She isn’t very good as expressing herself and talking about uncomfortable things so I thought it just might take time. Just “sometimes I’m not interested and not willing” and that’s all I get. I don’t expect either of us to want it all the time of course, but something changed and is at the point where I can’t continue the relationship like this because it feels like we’re just friends without the sexual side.
I just don’t know how to talk about it without making it a big issue and feeling like I’m putting pressure on her. As a separate issue possibly related, she never orgasms, isn’t bothered by that fact (so she says). I said that it’s important to me to have a healthy sex life in the relationship so I find it odd that she doesn’t orgasm and doesn’t seem to be willing to figure out why.
Mostly a vent to get some thoughts out, would appreciate some dialog if you know some common signs I may be missing
submitted by /u/Proper-Bonus-1007
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