I have been seeing someone for 6 months and we both feel deeply connected with each other, and are falling for each other. He’s told me that he’s not felt this deeply for anyone before, but I’ve felt a distance sexually and lack of desire, and we discussed this today.
He was incredibly emotional and crying when he told that he’s never felt that sexual chemistry with me. It was really hard to hear, and difficult to understand as romantically, it has been amazing and is deepening.
He also shared that he’s very rarely felt sexually attracted to anyone, it’s only happened a few times in his life and is very rare, so I am wondering if some form of asexuality plays a part here.
We’ve had sex everytime we’ve been together, but he’s increasingly struggled to stay aroused and it’s just not that ‘I want to rip your clothes off’ type of sex. When we spoke though, he talked about how he loved the times ‘we’ve made love’ and that was special for him.
We’ve both gone away to think about things and if this can continue, but both reaffirmed our strong feelings for each other and how deeply we care for each other. He’s very tactile, and I’d say that’s increased actually. He loves to cuddle naked, and be close to me.
I care for him so much, and he’s amazing in every other way. I’m crushed that something like that is missing for him.
I’ve never been with someone who I’m not sexually attracted to in some way, not necessarily by their appearance even, but the excitement, the intimacy, the sex.
I’m struggling to imagine what sex for him has been like if he’s not been sexually attracted to me. Does he even enjoy it? Has he only done it because he’s felt like he has to?
I’m just overwhelmed with emotions right now, and it feels like our intimate time together has been a lie. I feel embarrassed and silly for dressing up for him and putting myself out there. I made him an advent calendar filled with sexy vouchers, and I feel so ridiculous doing that now.
He’s the most amazing guy, and everything else is fantastic. So I feel so lost and confused right now
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r/sex I have been seeing someone for 6 months and we both feel deeply connected with each other, and are falling for each other. He’s told me that he’s not felt this deeply for anyone before, but I’ve felt a distance sexually and lack of desire, and we discussed this today. He was incredibly emotional and crying when he told that he’s never felt that sexual chemistry with me. It was really hard to hear, and difficult to understand as romantically, it has been amazing and is deepening. He also shared that he’s very rarely felt sexually attracted to anyone, it’s only happened a few times in his life and is very rare, so I am wondering if some form of asexuality plays a part here. We’ve had sex everytime we’ve been together, but he’s increasingly struggled to stay aroused and it’s just not that ‘I want to rip your clothes off’ type of sex. When we spoke though, he talked about how he loved the times ‘we’ve made love’ and that was special for him. We’ve both gone away to think about things and if this can continue, but both reaffirmed our strong feelings for each other and how deeply we care for each other. He’s very tactile, and I’d say that’s increased actually. He loves to cuddle naked, and be close to me. I care for him so much, and he’s amazing in every other way. I’m crushed that something like that is missing for him. I’ve never been with someone who I’m not sexually attracted to in some way, not necessarily by their appearance even, but the excitement, the intimacy, the sex. I’m struggling to imagine what sex for him has been like if he’s not been sexually attracted to me. Does he even enjoy it? Has he only done it because he’s felt like he has to? I’m just overwhelmed with emotions right now, and it feels like our intimate time together has been a lie. I feel embarrassed and silly for dressing up for him and putting myself out there. I made him an advent calendar filled with sexy vouchers, and I feel so ridiculous doing that now. He’s the most amazing guy, and everything else is fantastic. So I feel so lost and confused right now submitted by /u/TinyFunTax [link] [comments]
I have been seeing someone for 6 months and we both feel deeply connected with each other, and are falling for each other. He’s told me that he’s not felt this deeply for anyone before, but I’ve felt a distance sexually and lack of desire, and we discussed this today.
He was incredibly emotional and crying when he told that he’s never felt that sexual chemistry with me. It was really hard to hear, and difficult to understand as romantically, it has been amazing and is deepening.
He also shared that he’s very rarely felt sexually attracted to anyone, it’s only happened a few times in his life and is very rare, so I am wondering if some form of asexuality plays a part here.
We’ve had sex everytime we’ve been together, but he’s increasingly struggled to stay aroused and it’s just not that ‘I want to rip your clothes off’ type of sex. When we spoke though, he talked about how he loved the times ‘we’ve made love’ and that was special for him.
We’ve both gone away to think about things and if this can continue, but both reaffirmed our strong feelings for each other and how deeply we care for each other. He’s very tactile, and I’d say that’s increased actually. He loves to cuddle naked, and be close to me.
I care for him so much, and he’s amazing in every other way. I’m crushed that something like that is missing for him.
I’ve never been with someone who I’m not sexually attracted to in some way, not necessarily by their appearance even, but the excitement, the intimacy, the sex.
I’m struggling to imagine what sex for him has been like if he’s not been sexually attracted to me. Does he even enjoy it? Has he only done it because he’s felt like he has to?
I’m just overwhelmed with emotions right now, and it feels like our intimate time together has been a lie. I feel embarrassed and silly for dressing up for him and putting myself out there. I made him an advent calendar filled with sexy vouchers, and I feel so ridiculous doing that now.
He’s the most amazing guy, and everything else is fantastic. So I feel so lost and confused right now
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