Recently, I (22M) got my first official girlfriend (21F), and while things are going well, our sex life could be better. Sex often feels repetitive and the passion is noticeably dipping. Both of us struggle to reach orgasm; my non-SSRI meds make it hard for me to climax, and I struggle with staying hard wearing a condom. She gets off by using a vibrator while on top and basically just masturbating for a minute or 2, which can kinda break the flow.
The dominance dynamic is also tricky. She seems to want me to be more dominant, but she’s used to being the dom in previous relationships and I can find dirty talk/ordering her around to feel kinda weird if I’m not being taunted a little (I’m more used to brat dynamics, she’s too nice LOL) or I’m not in super animalistic horndog mode, which is hard when… I’m not. She also seems to get skittish when I do take charge, which does not help.
Despite the fact we are both pretty kinky and have sky high libidos, our sex remains pretty damn vanilla; we somehow haven’t even given each other oral yet! which is a shame bc I like giving it when girls are into it, and have a pretty strong fetish for receiving it
We have been trying to experiment more (recently we tried having me tie her hands together and use her vibrator on her, which we both seemed to like) but it often feels like we are scared to suggest new things with any specificity at all really… So any advice on how to work through it or things for me to try are super appreciated <3
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r/sex Recently, I (22M) got my first official girlfriend (21F), and while things are going well, our sex life could be better. Sex often feels repetitive and the passion is noticeably dipping. Both of us struggle to reach orgasm; my non-SSRI meds make it hard for me to climax, and I struggle with staying hard wearing a condom. She gets off by using a vibrator while on top and basically just masturbating for a minute or 2, which can kinda break the flow. The dominance dynamic is also tricky. She seems to want me to be more dominant, but she’s used to being the dom in previous relationships and I can find dirty talk/ordering her around to feel kinda weird if I’m not being taunted a little (I’m more used to brat dynamics, she’s too nice LOL) or I’m not in super animalistic horndog mode, which is hard when… I’m not. She also seems to get skittish when I do take charge, which does not help. Despite the fact we are both pretty kinky and have sky high libidos, our sex remains pretty damn vanilla; we somehow haven’t even given each other oral yet! which is a shame bc I like giving it when girls are into it, and have a pretty strong fetish for receiving it We have been trying to experiment more (recently we tried having me tie her hands together and use her vibrator on her, which we both seemed to like) but it often feels like we are scared to suggest new things with any specificity at all really… So any advice on how to work through it or things for me to try are super appreciated <3 submitted by /u/byasilverspoon [link] [comments]
Recently, I (22M) got my first official girlfriend (21F), and while things are going well, our sex life could be better. Sex often feels repetitive and the passion is noticeably dipping. Both of us struggle to reach orgasm; my non-SSRI meds make it hard for me to climax, and I struggle with staying hard wearing a condom. She gets off by using a vibrator while on top and basically just masturbating for a minute or 2, which can kinda break the flow.
The dominance dynamic is also tricky. She seems to want me to be more dominant, but she’s used to being the dom in previous relationships and I can find dirty talk/ordering her around to feel kinda weird if I’m not being taunted a little (I’m more used to brat dynamics, she’s too nice LOL) or I’m not in super animalistic horndog mode, which is hard when… I’m not. She also seems to get skittish when I do take charge, which does not help.
Despite the fact we are both pretty kinky and have sky high libidos, our sex remains pretty damn vanilla; we somehow haven’t even given each other oral yet! which is a shame bc I like giving it when girls are into it, and have a pretty strong fetish for receiving it
We have been trying to experiment more (recently we tried having me tie her hands together and use her vibrator on her, which we both seemed to like) but it often feels like we are scared to suggest new things with any specificity at all really… So any advice on how to work through it or things for me to try are super appreciated <3
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