Been with my husband 21 years. I’ve worked through some shit (CSA and sex shaming upbringing) and I’m finally having sex for my own pleasure and not out of obligation or just having no libido.
But my husband is just bad and anything other than using his dick. Like he is great using his dick he has figired out how to hit the right spot inside. But when he touches me it’s too rough or not the right spot. And I know you’re gonna say “just talk to him give him some direction.”
The last 2 times I spoke up he got annoyed about it. The first time he was eating me and I asked him to put his fingers in me and he literally huffed and groaned like i asked him to do the impossible. The second time was 2 nights ago he was rubbing my clit and I asked for more lube. Well honestly any time I ask for more lube he gets annoyed. He actually said to me 2 nights ago “I think your senses are messed up because my fingers are dripping”. First of all his hands are rough like sandpaper when dry because of his job but that’s not his fault so I just needed more lube.
Like I’m just over it. I spend so much time getting my own self turned on for sex because he sucks at anything that’s not putting his dick in my hole. Like I will spend a long time sucking him and rubbing his perineum for prostate stimulation and I can barely get lube used on my pussy without attitude. And I enjoy pleasuring him like that or I wouldn’t do it but don’t feel like my pleasure matters to him.
I realize a lot of this is my fault for never enforcing any foreplay activities but honestly I think I never did because the few times I’ve spoken up he got annoyed and I was so self conscious about enjoying sex I just shut down. Like he couldn’t even get the wand on my clit a couple weeks ago.
It’s killing my libido honestly because masturbating is less effort. And at the rate we’re going I’m going to explode in anger the next time I get attitude for asking for lube.
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r/sex Been with my husband 21 years. I’ve worked through some shit (CSA and sex shaming upbringing) and I’m finally having sex for my own pleasure and not out of obligation or just having no libido. But my husband is just bad and anything other than using his dick. Like he is great using his dick he has figired out how to hit the right spot inside. But when he touches me it’s too rough or not the right spot. And I know you’re gonna say “just talk to him give him some direction.” The last 2 times I spoke up he got annoyed about it. The first time he was eating me and I asked him to put his fingers in me and he literally huffed and groaned like i asked him to do the impossible. The second time was 2 nights ago he was rubbing my clit and I asked for more lube. Well honestly any time I ask for more lube he gets annoyed. He actually said to me 2 nights ago “I think your senses are messed up because my fingers are dripping”. First of all his hands are rough like sandpaper when dry because of his job but that’s not his fault so I just needed more lube. Like I’m just over it. I spend so much time getting my own self turned on for sex because he sucks at anything that’s not putting his dick in my hole. Like I will spend a long time sucking him and rubbing his perineum for prostate stimulation and I can barely get lube used on my pussy without attitude. And I enjoy pleasuring him like that or I wouldn’t do it but don’t feel like my pleasure matters to him. I realize a lot of this is my fault for never enforcing any foreplay activities but honestly I think I never did because the few times I’ve spoken up he got annoyed and I was so self conscious about enjoying sex I just shut down. Like he couldn’t even get the wand on my clit a couple weeks ago. It’s killing my libido honestly because masturbating is less effort. And at the rate we’re going I’m going to explode in anger the next time I get attitude for asking for lube. submitted by /u/Ok-Concentrate1621 [link] [comments]
Been with my husband 21 years. I’ve worked through some shit (CSA and sex shaming upbringing) and I’m finally having sex for my own pleasure and not out of obligation or just having no libido.
But my husband is just bad and anything other than using his dick. Like he is great using his dick he has figired out how to hit the right spot inside. But when he touches me it’s too rough or not the right spot. And I know you’re gonna say “just talk to him give him some direction.”
The last 2 times I spoke up he got annoyed about it. The first time he was eating me and I asked him to put his fingers in me and he literally huffed and groaned like i asked him to do the impossible. The second time was 2 nights ago he was rubbing my clit and I asked for more lube. Well honestly any time I ask for more lube he gets annoyed. He actually said to me 2 nights ago “I think your senses are messed up because my fingers are dripping”. First of all his hands are rough like sandpaper when dry because of his job but that’s not his fault so I just needed more lube.
Like I’m just over it. I spend so much time getting my own self turned on for sex because he sucks at anything that’s not putting his dick in my hole. Like I will spend a long time sucking him and rubbing his perineum for prostate stimulation and I can barely get lube used on my pussy without attitude. And I enjoy pleasuring him like that or I wouldn’t do it but don’t feel like my pleasure matters to him.
I realize a lot of this is my fault for never enforcing any foreplay activities but honestly I think I never did because the few times I’ve spoken up he got annoyed and I was so self conscious about enjoying sex I just shut down. Like he couldn’t even get the wand on my clit a couple weeks ago.
It’s killing my libido honestly because masturbating is less effort. And at the rate we’re going I’m going to explode in anger the next time I get attitude for asking for lube.
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