Context: me (m32) and my gf (f32) are together for more than one year now. We usually have amazing sex, slow, intense, intimate. Recently, for the last one to two months, I regularly have trouble cuming, and sometimes struggle staying hard. We still have an amazing sexlife, but I feel and fear that these recent issues that I have from time to time increase my anxiety of failure. It has nothing to do with her, she is the best that happened to me in my whole life. I think it is entirely in my head, I know it is entirely in my head (me, on the autistic spectrum, overthinking almost everything).
Yesterday, it happened again that we had sex and I just was not able to finish. It felt amazing and also she had no trouble cuming, but I felt that I am stuck again in my head. Thoughts started to circle and I told her that it’s ok, it was still nice, but I feel it’s not going to work today.
She then asked if she can please me in another way and started to give me head with the goal to make me cum like this. We never did this before, usually we love peasing each other orally, but only to heat things up – not because we do not like to finish thing like this, but because we both prefere to cum together with me inside her.
Long story short, as she went down on me, for like 10 minutes + I felt like bursting. It was incredibly intense, but I just was n ot able to cum. After a while I told her that I really love what she’s doing and that it feels very good, but that I think it’s not going to work today and that I’m fine.
I think it would not bother me too much, but as stuff like that piles up recently (sometimes issues staying hard, sometimes similar to what I described) I’d like to ask if this is something others can relate to, or if there is advice on what to do / improve. Maybe also there is someone who can give me advice on how to let go of these mental spirals.
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r/sex Context: me (m32) and my gf (f32) are together for more than one year now. We usually have amazing sex, slow, intense, intimate. Recently, for the last one to two months, I regularly have trouble cuming, and sometimes struggle staying hard. We still have an amazing sexlife, but I feel and fear that these recent issues that I have from time to time increase my anxiety of failure. It has nothing to do with her, she is the best that happened to me in my whole life. I think it is entirely in my head, I know it is entirely in my head (me, on the autistic spectrum, overthinking almost everything). Yesterday, it happened again that we had sex and I just was not able to finish. It felt amazing and also she had no trouble cuming, but I felt that I am stuck again in my head. Thoughts started to circle and I told her that it’s ok, it was still nice, but I feel it’s not going to work today. She then asked if she can please me in another way and started to give me head with the goal to make me cum like this. We never did this before, usually we love peasing each other orally, but only to heat things up – not because we do not like to finish thing like this, but because we both prefere to cum together with me inside her. Long story short, as she went down on me, for like 10 minutes + I felt like bursting. It was incredibly intense, but I just was n ot able to cum. After a while I told her that I really love what she’s doing and that it feels very good, but that I think it’s not going to work today and that I’m fine. I think it would not bother me too much, but as stuff like that piles up recently (sometimes issues staying hard, sometimes similar to what I described) I’d like to ask if this is something others can relate to, or if there is advice on what to do / improve. Maybe also there is someone who can give me advice on how to let go of these mental spirals. submitted by /u/LeguanoMan [link] [comments]
Context: me (m32) and my gf (f32) are together for more than one year now. We usually have amazing sex, slow, intense, intimate. Recently, for the last one to two months, I regularly have trouble cuming, and sometimes struggle staying hard. We still have an amazing sexlife, but I feel and fear that these recent issues that I have from time to time increase my anxiety of failure. It has nothing to do with her, she is the best that happened to me in my whole life. I think it is entirely in my head, I know it is entirely in my head (me, on the autistic spectrum, overthinking almost everything).
Yesterday, it happened again that we had sex and I just was not able to finish. It felt amazing and also she had no trouble cuming, but I felt that I am stuck again in my head. Thoughts started to circle and I told her that it’s ok, it was still nice, but I feel it’s not going to work today.
She then asked if she can please me in another way and started to give me head with the goal to make me cum like this. We never did this before, usually we love peasing each other orally, but only to heat things up – not because we do not like to finish thing like this, but because we both prefere to cum together with me inside her.
Long story short, as she went down on me, for like 10 minutes + I felt like bursting. It was incredibly intense, but I just was n ot able to cum. After a while I told her that I really love what she’s doing and that it feels very good, but that I think it’s not going to work today and that I’m fine.
I think it would not bother me too much, but as stuff like that piles up recently (sometimes issues staying hard, sometimes similar to what I described) I’d like to ask if this is something others can relate to, or if there is advice on what to do / improve. Maybe also there is someone who can give me advice on how to let go of these mental spirals.
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