For context I (22F) have been with my husband (32M) for about a year and a half. We found out we were having a baby 6 months into our relationship just had a baby in October. Early in our relationship we had sex a lot, that had more foreplay (really just kissing), but I still wouldn’t get off. While I was with child, my husband could not get me off since my belly was so huge (that was the excuse at least), that was a long 10 months. Since having the baby, we have been consistent in our sex life but it still falls short. There is no foreplay- kissing, fingering, nothing- unless I give him a BJ. I lay down, put on lube, and let him go. I have never had to use lube with any previous partners. I have not had an orgasm with him in over a year now. And even before we found out about the baby I maybe orgasmed 3 times with him total. He hadn’t been sexually active with other women very much before me (I was his first gf) so I thought giving him time would be fair. But he still has problems lasting longer than 1 minute, doing a slow pace. There is no passion, no hot and heavy, nothing satisfying to me. It feels good for a very short period of time but then as soon as it does it’s over. I have tried using a vibrator but he says it gets in the way and it makes him finish faster because he can feel the vibrations too. He doesn’t seem to understand my issue, he thinks everything is fine. I’m left frustrated, unsatisfied and now sex is more of an annoying chore than something I willingly want to lay down and do. I seriously feel like his masturbation device. When HES done he cleans himself, throws me the towel and goes on his phone. There is no talking, kissing, nothing. I’ve tried telling him we should do foreplay, but I think to him that’s giving him a BJ. I’ve tried spicing things up by playing the Monogamy board game. I ask him if he wants me to wear lingerie and he says he doesn’t care. When I have worn it he doesn’t do anything different just says take your clothes and then that’s it. I’m not sure what else to do. I’m so unsatisfied, bored, annoyed. I’m still young with a high sex drive and he has one too but I don’t feel hot or excited at all to have sex. What do I do now??
tl;dr- my husband doesn’t do any foreplay, or get me off and I am not excited or into having sex anymore
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r/sex For context I (22F) have been with my husband (32M) for about a year and a half. We found out we were having a baby 6 months into our relationship just had a baby in October. Early in our relationship we had sex a lot, that had more foreplay (really just kissing), but I still wouldn’t get off. While I was with child, my husband could not get me off since my belly was so huge (that was the excuse at least), that was a long 10 months. Since having the baby, we have been consistent in our sex life but it still falls short. There is no foreplay- kissing, fingering, nothing- unless I give him a BJ. I lay down, put on lube, and let him go. I have never had to use lube with any previous partners. I have not had an orgasm with him in over a year now. And even before we found out about the baby I maybe orgasmed 3 times with him total. He hadn’t been sexually active with other women very much before me (I was his first gf) so I thought giving him time would be fair. But he still has problems lasting longer than 1 minute, doing a slow pace. There is no passion, no hot and heavy, nothing satisfying to me. It feels good for a very short period of time but then as soon as it does it’s over. I have tried using a vibrator but he says it gets in the way and it makes him finish faster because he can feel the vibrations too. He doesn’t seem to understand my issue, he thinks everything is fine. I’m left frustrated, unsatisfied and now sex is more of an annoying chore than something I willingly want to lay down and do. I seriously feel like his masturbation device. When HES done he cleans himself, throws me the towel and goes on his phone. There is no talking, kissing, nothing. I’ve tried telling him we should do foreplay, but I think to him that’s giving him a BJ. I’ve tried spicing things up by playing the Monogamy board game. I ask him if he wants me to wear lingerie and he says he doesn’t care. When I have worn it he doesn’t do anything different just says take your clothes and then that’s it. I’m not sure what else to do. I’m so unsatisfied, bored, annoyed. I’m still young with a high sex drive and he has one too but I don’t feel hot or excited at all to have sex. What do I do now?? tl;dr- my husband doesn’t do any foreplay, or get me off and I am not excited or into having sex anymore submitted by /u/youngelizt [link] [comments]
For context I (22F) have been with my husband (32M) for about a year and a half. We found out we were having a baby 6 months into our relationship just had a baby in October. Early in our relationship we had sex a lot, that had more foreplay (really just kissing), but I still wouldn’t get off. While I was with child, my husband could not get me off since my belly was so huge (that was the excuse at least), that was a long 10 months. Since having the baby, we have been consistent in our sex life but it still falls short. There is no foreplay- kissing, fingering, nothing- unless I give him a BJ. I lay down, put on lube, and let him go. I have never had to use lube with any previous partners. I have not had an orgasm with him in over a year now. And even before we found out about the baby I maybe orgasmed 3 times with him total. He hadn’t been sexually active with other women very much before me (I was his first gf) so I thought giving him time would be fair. But he still has problems lasting longer than 1 minute, doing a slow pace. There is no passion, no hot and heavy, nothing satisfying to me. It feels good for a very short period of time but then as soon as it does it’s over. I have tried using a vibrator but he says it gets in the way and it makes him finish faster because he can feel the vibrations too. He doesn’t seem to understand my issue, he thinks everything is fine. I’m left frustrated, unsatisfied and now sex is more of an annoying chore than something I willingly want to lay down and do. I seriously feel like his masturbation device. When HES done he cleans himself, throws me the towel and goes on his phone. There is no talking, kissing, nothing. I’ve tried telling him we should do foreplay, but I think to him that’s giving him a BJ. I’ve tried spicing things up by playing the Monogamy board game. I ask him if he wants me to wear lingerie and he says he doesn’t care. When I have worn it he doesn’t do anything different just says take your clothes and then that’s it. I’m not sure what else to do. I’m so unsatisfied, bored, annoyed. I’m still young with a high sex drive and he has one too but I don’t feel hot or excited at all to have sex. What do I do now??
tl;dr- my husband doesn’t do any foreplay, or get me off and I am not excited or into having sex anymore
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