In the past 4+ months since my husband and I found out we were having kids, we’ve only had sex two or three times. I had a pretty terrible first trimester but have been feeling much better the last couple of weeks, and that’s not to say that there weren’t times during those first three months when I felt normal.
After the first time we had sex, my doctor put me on “pelvic rest” (no sex order for what became a month) because of an issue with my lady parts, so I don’t know if that’s what made hubby start to feel insecure. He is normally very affectionate and touchy feely but he hasn’t been cuddly or touchy in a long time. I told him we can cuddle, that it doesn’t bother me, and I’ve initiated the sex that we have had since we found out we were expecting. He says he cannot get to me for cuddles because of the body pillow I sleep with, but it felt like an excuse.
Yesterday, he touched my boob when my nipples were very sensitive so I kinda gasped when his hand grazed over them, but it was a pleasant feeling. He mentioned afterward when he heard me gasp that he thought he had hurt me and I told him I was fine. Today, we were having a somewhat lazy morning so I started giving him a handjob and said that we should have sex before we started our day which he happily agreed to. Once we started though he moved sooooo carefully and slowly. He kept asking me again and again if I was okay to which I answered repeatedly that yes I was fine. I asked him to go a little faster and use more force but he hesitated and maintained the same speed. When we were done, I said we could have more frisky sex but he said that I’m too fragile and he’s scared of hurting me. If something hurt during sex though, I would tell him that we need to stop.
How can I reassure my husband that I’m fine and that we should have more sex and more fun sex? I feel like I’m going crazy and there’s only so much smut I can read to satisfy myself.
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r/sex In the past 4+ months since my husband and I found out we were having kids, we’ve only had sex two or three times. I had a pretty terrible first trimester but have been feeling much better the last couple of weeks, and that’s not to say that there weren’t times during those first three months when I felt normal. After the first time we had sex, my doctor put me on “pelvic rest” (no sex order for what became a month) because of an issue with my lady parts, so I don’t know if that’s what made hubby start to feel insecure. He is normally very affectionate and touchy feely but he hasn’t been cuddly or touchy in a long time. I told him we can cuddle, that it doesn’t bother me, and I’ve initiated the sex that we have had since we found out we were expecting. He says he cannot get to me for cuddles because of the body pillow I sleep with, but it felt like an excuse. Yesterday, he touched my boob when my nipples were very sensitive so I kinda gasped when his hand grazed over them, but it was a pleasant feeling. He mentioned afterward when he heard me gasp that he thought he had hurt me and I told him I was fine. Today, we were having a somewhat lazy morning so I started giving him a handjob and said that we should have sex before we started our day which he happily agreed to. Once we started though he moved sooooo carefully and slowly. He kept asking me again and again if I was okay to which I answered repeatedly that yes I was fine. I asked him to go a little faster and use more force but he hesitated and maintained the same speed. When we were done, I said we could have more frisky sex but he said that I’m too fragile and he’s scared of hurting me. If something hurt during sex though, I would tell him that we need to stop. How can I reassure my husband that I’m fine and that we should have more sex and more fun sex? I feel like I’m going crazy and there’s only so much smut I can read to satisfy myself. submitted by /u/lolgurl17 [link] [comments]
In the past 4+ months since my husband and I found out we were having kids, we’ve only had sex two or three times. I had a pretty terrible first trimester but have been feeling much better the last couple of weeks, and that’s not to say that there weren’t times during those first three months when I felt normal.
After the first time we had sex, my doctor put me on “pelvic rest” (no sex order for what became a month) because of an issue with my lady parts, so I don’t know if that’s what made hubby start to feel insecure. He is normally very affectionate and touchy feely but he hasn’t been cuddly or touchy in a long time. I told him we can cuddle, that it doesn’t bother me, and I’ve initiated the sex that we have had since we found out we were expecting. He says he cannot get to me for cuddles because of the body pillow I sleep with, but it felt like an excuse.
Yesterday, he touched my boob when my nipples were very sensitive so I kinda gasped when his hand grazed over them, but it was a pleasant feeling. He mentioned afterward when he heard me gasp that he thought he had hurt me and I told him I was fine. Today, we were having a somewhat lazy morning so I started giving him a handjob and said that we should have sex before we started our day which he happily agreed to. Once we started though he moved sooooo carefully and slowly. He kept asking me again and again if I was okay to which I answered repeatedly that yes I was fine. I asked him to go a little faster and use more force but he hesitated and maintained the same speed. When we were done, I said we could have more frisky sex but he said that I’m too fragile and he’s scared of hurting me. If something hurt during sex though, I would tell him that we need to stop.
How can I reassure my husband that I’m fine and that we should have more sex and more fun sex? I feel like I’m going crazy and there’s only so much smut I can read to satisfy myself.
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