Sexual teasing is a nightmare /u/lukethreesixty Sex

Preface: I certainly know that no one is EVER “owed” sexual experiences! I would NEVER solicit a sexual advance in any way with anyone who hasn’t made it explicitly okay. Everything in this interaction was confirmed to be 100% consensual.

Okay so the TLDR is that tonight I had a Netflix night with my new girlfriend (Both of us have been sexually active with multiple people). She kept teasing me, sexually, (e.g. running her hand over my pants, thumb sliding under the waistband, etc.) and she’d abruptly stop. Then she’d do it again for a while, and even ask if I was okay with it, then stop again. Eventually, she just headed home.

I’ve been laying in bed with a surge of emotions over me. I don’t know what to do but I feel absolutely horrible. The teasing was absolute frustrative torture, and I wish that (if she wasn’t comfortable going through with it) she hadn’t touched me at all. I could NEVER voice this feeling to her for obvious reasons: I don’t want to sound like I’m complaining that I didn’t get anything, because that’s so manipulative and shitty.

The truth is, I don’t care at all if she’s not ready or anything. We don’t need sex at all. But when someone initiates something and abandons it, I get this “emotional blue-balls” feeling.

But I seriously can’t help but feel teased and it’s an emotional frustration like no other. How do I make it stop??

Preface: I certainly know that no one is EVER “owed” sexual experiences! I would NEVER solicit a sexual advance in any way with anyone who hasn’t made it explicitly okay. Everything in this interaction was confirmed to be 100% consensual.

Okay so the TLDR is that tonight I had a Netflix night with my new girlfriend (Both of us have been sexually active with multiple people). She kept teasing me, sexually, (e.g. running her hand over my pants, thumb sliding under the waistband, etc.) and she’d abruptly stop. Then she’d do it again for a while, and even ask if I was okay with it, then stop again. Eventually, she just headed home.

I’ve been laying in bed with a surge of emotions over me. I don’t know what to do but I feel absolutely horrible. The teasing was absolute frustrative torture, and I wish that (if she wasn’t comfortable going through with it) she hadn’t touched me at all. I could NEVER voice this feeling to her for obvious reasons: I don’t want to sound like I’m complaining that I didn’t get anything, because that’s so manipulative and shitty.

The truth is, I don’t care at all if she’s not ready or anything. We don’t need sex at all. But when someone initiates something and abandons it, I get this “emotional blue-balls” feeling.

But I seriously can’t help but feel teased and it’s an emotional frustration like no other. How do I make it stop??