My (21M) girlfriend (20F) insists on sex even though it hurts her /u/MolassesLoose5187 Sex

So basically my gf has an issue where PIV pretty much always causes pain and even tearing – no matter how much foreplay, lube, getting her off first etc. Sometimes it feels impossible to put it in. Because of that, I don’t want to do PIV with her and rather stick to oral/fingering so she can actually focus on enjoying it (dont get me wrong i love PIV but not more than her wellbeing). The problem is she still wants to do to it, and basically made it clear it’s because she feels like a failure and afraid ill be upset/disappointed/leave her. I’ve reassured her as much as I can but she’s still inisting on it. I would appreciate any advice. Thanks for reading.

Edit: apologies if this is the wrong sub

So basically my gf has an issue where PIV pretty much always causes pain and even tearing – no matter how much foreplay, lube, getting her off first etc. Sometimes it feels impossible to put it in. Because of that, I don’t want to do PIV with her and rather stick to oral/fingering so she can actually focus on enjoying it (dont get me wrong i love PIV but not more than her wellbeing). The problem is she still wants to do to it, and basically made it clear it’s because she feels like a failure and afraid ill be upset/disappointed/leave her. I’ve reassured her as much as I can but she’s still inisting on it. I would appreciate any advice. Thanks for reading.

Edit: apologies if this is the wrong sub