We’ve had serious intimacy struggles over several years that resulted in multiple dead-end conversations. When I finally threatened to end the relationship she changed her birth control, went to therapy, ‘found her sexuality’, and says she wants to explore with me.
The problem is that I’ve lost attraction over that time and feel burned because I gave her books, sites, podcasts, recommended she talk to her gyno, and begged her to go to therapy alone and with me. But, she just shut down and says she was afraid of failure in the bedroom. She is meek by nature.
We’re now in therapy and the roles have reversed. I want to give it an actual shot and try to get past this, but I’m struggling to let go of the way I see her now and the lack of honesty and communication.
I am reading With Sprinkles on Top to help bridge the gap and a lot of people find ‘teaching’ the less experienced partner to be erotic and I’m trying to work with that idea. I’m looking for advice or stories from couples who have overcome something like this or just couples who have a teacher dynamic and what that looks like.
TLDR: I’m looking for advice or stories from couples who have developed a teacher dynamic within an asymmetrically kinky relationship.
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r/sex We’ve had serious intimacy struggles over several years that resulted in multiple dead-end conversations. When I finally threatened to end the relationship she changed her birth control, went to therapy, ‘found her sexuality’, and says she wants to explore with me. The problem is that I’ve lost attraction over that time and feel burned because I gave her books, sites, podcasts, recommended she talk to her gyno, and begged her to go to therapy alone and with me. But, she just shut down and says she was afraid of failure in the bedroom. She is meek by nature. We’re now in therapy and the roles have reversed. I want to give it an actual shot and try to get past this, but I’m struggling to let go of the way I see her now and the lack of honesty and communication. I am reading With Sprinkles on Top to help bridge the gap and a lot of people find ‘teaching’ the less experienced partner to be erotic and I’m trying to work with that idea. I’m looking for advice or stories from couples who have overcome something like this or just couples who have a teacher dynamic and what that looks like. TLDR: I’m looking for advice or stories from couples who have developed a teacher dynamic within an asymmetrically kinky relationship. submitted by /u/emanon-guy [link] [comments]
We’ve had serious intimacy struggles over several years that resulted in multiple dead-end conversations. When I finally threatened to end the relationship she changed her birth control, went to therapy, ‘found her sexuality’, and says she wants to explore with me.
The problem is that I’ve lost attraction over that time and feel burned because I gave her books, sites, podcasts, recommended she talk to her gyno, and begged her to go to therapy alone and with me. But, she just shut down and says she was afraid of failure in the bedroom. She is meek by nature.
We’re now in therapy and the roles have reversed. I want to give it an actual shot and try to get past this, but I’m struggling to let go of the way I see her now and the lack of honesty and communication.
I am reading With Sprinkles on Top to help bridge the gap and a lot of people find ‘teaching’ the less experienced partner to be erotic and I’m trying to work with that idea. I’m looking for advice or stories from couples who have overcome something like this or just couples who have a teacher dynamic and what that looks like.
TLDR: I’m looking for advice or stories from couples who have developed a teacher dynamic within an asymmetrically kinky relationship.
submitted by /u/emanon-guy
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