My (22f) boyfriend (26m) and I want to experiment in the bedroom, but I have insecurities issues, how can we navigate this? /u/muntingexe Sex

My boyfriend and I have been together for well over a year and while we’ve had our issues we’re working through them with therapy and we’re talking about things we haven’t before, such as our sex life and what turns us on because I’ve usually been a bit of a prude and couldn’t find the courage to talk to him about stuff like that, which caused me to put a lot of value on sex and have a heightened sex drive due to anxiety and fear of underperforming.

The problem is that I have a certain “kink” I’d like to explore which is having a threesome where he has a man fuck him while he fucks me. He’s bisexual and so am I, and he’s voiced before that he finds my attraction to women hot and that he’d love to see me make out with a girl. I used to have reservations about this but thought about it and have been opening up to the idea.

I mentioned the “kink” to him and he was enthusiastic and supportive. I told him we had to take things slow though because I have some insecurities I’d like to work through and he was more than understanding. I was relieved, turned on, and felt like a weight had been dropped off my shoulders because our sex life is stressful to me for several reasons (mainly that I feel inadequate, but that’s just due to past trauma),but ever since then I’ve just been thinking and trying to work through my insecurities.

I really love him and nothing brings me pleasure more than him receiving pleasure, as well. It’s just that our “relationship” started with us being fuckbuddies, and then we fell in love, so I’m just a little worried about the emotional connection aspect. He’s offended that I believe he would cheat on me or leave me for a man, because he identified as heteromantic bisexual, so he doesn’t have romantic feelings for men. But I just get really worried because I also feel like sometimes this is just something I can’t give him, but other times I feel good about the fact that I can give him permission to experience something he likes again while being loyal to me still, technically. He has a long sexual history of both men and women (significantly more women than men, to be fair) and I just want to hear some experiences or maybe reassurance from others who can understand the situation I’m in.

If this isn’t the proper subreddit, let me know. I’m relatively new to the site and this seemed like not the wrong one to post something like this.

My boyfriend and I have been together for well over a year and while we’ve had our issues we’re working through them with therapy and we’re talking about things we haven’t before, such as our sex life and what turns us on because I’ve usually been a bit of a prude and couldn’t find the courage to talk to him about stuff like that, which caused me to put a lot of value on sex and have a heightened sex drive due to anxiety and fear of underperforming.

The problem is that I have a certain “kink” I’d like to explore which is having a threesome where he has a man fuck him while he fucks me. He’s bisexual and so am I, and he’s voiced before that he finds my attraction to women hot and that he’d love to see me make out with a girl. I used to have reservations about this but thought about it and have been opening up to the idea.

I mentioned the “kink” to him and he was enthusiastic and supportive. I told him we had to take things slow though because I have some insecurities I’d like to work through and he was more than understanding. I was relieved, turned on, and felt like a weight had been dropped off my shoulders because our sex life is stressful to me for several reasons (mainly that I feel inadequate, but that’s just due to past trauma),but ever since then I’ve just been thinking and trying to work through my insecurities.

I really love him and nothing brings me pleasure more than him receiving pleasure, as well. It’s just that our “relationship” started with us being fuckbuddies, and then we fell in love, so I’m just a little worried about the emotional connection aspect. He’s offended that I believe he would cheat on me or leave me for a man, because he identified as heteromantic bisexual, so he doesn’t have romantic feelings for men. But I just get really worried because I also feel like sometimes this is just something I can’t give him, but other times I feel good about the fact that I can give him permission to experience something he likes again while being loyal to me still, technically. He has a long sexual history of both men and women (significantly more women than men, to be fair) and I just want to hear some experiences or maybe reassurance from others who can understand the situation I’m in.

If this isn’t the proper subreddit, let me know. I’m relatively new to the site and this seemed like not the wrong one to post something like this.