I’ve been seeing this guy for a month and a half, we kissed/made out for the first time last week. We were talking and basically he insinuated liking pain in a sexual way. He also likes the pressure of someone on him, I’m not quite sure what that would be considered haha but definitely pressure (maybe pain..?)
When we were kissing last week I was on top of him and he pulled my arms behind my back. It was really hot and I didn’t expect it! Makes me think he might be into BDSM. I’ve always wanted to try that kink because I think it’s hot, BUT I don’t like being hurt during sex and I couldn’t imagine hurting someone. Spanking, restraint, and light choking is good, but I’ve been with one person who was into intimate pain and it scared me… he ended up punching me during sex, was into melting hot wax on me, pinching the shit out of my nipples, degrading talk, etc.
I’ll lay clear boundaries this time but I’m nervous. I don’t want us to be incompatible and I’m open minded to some stuff. I know I won’t know until (if) we get there, but anything I should be aware of going into this possible kink?
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r/sex I’ve been seeing this guy for a month and a half, we kissed/made out for the first time last week. We were talking and basically he insinuated liking pain in a sexual way. He also likes the pressure of someone on him, I’m not quite sure what that would be considered haha but definitely pressure (maybe pain..?) When we were kissing last week I was on top of him and he pulled my arms behind my back. It was really hot and I didn’t expect it! Makes me think he might be into BDSM. I’ve always wanted to try that kink because I think it’s hot, BUT I don’t like being hurt during sex and I couldn’t imagine hurting someone. Spanking, restraint, and light choking is good, but I’ve been with one person who was into intimate pain and it scared me… he ended up punching me during sex, was into melting hot wax on me, pinching the shit out of my nipples, degrading talk, etc. I’ll lay clear boundaries this time but I’m nervous. I don’t want us to be incompatible and I’m open minded to some stuff. I know I won’t know until (if) we get there, but anything I should be aware of going into this possible kink? submitted by /u/SageGreenDream [link] [comments]
I’ve been seeing this guy for a month and a half, we kissed/made out for the first time last week. We were talking and basically he insinuated liking pain in a sexual way. He also likes the pressure of someone on him, I’m not quite sure what that would be considered haha but definitely pressure (maybe pain..?)
When we were kissing last week I was on top of him and he pulled my arms behind my back. It was really hot and I didn’t expect it! Makes me think he might be into BDSM. I’ve always wanted to try that kink because I think it’s hot, BUT I don’t like being hurt during sex and I couldn’t imagine hurting someone. Spanking, restraint, and light choking is good, but I’ve been with one person who was into intimate pain and it scared me… he ended up punching me during sex, was into melting hot wax on me, pinching the shit out of my nipples, degrading talk, etc.
I’ll lay clear boundaries this time but I’m nervous. I don’t want us to be incompatible and I’m open minded to some stuff. I know I won’t know until (if) we get there, but anything I should be aware of going into this possible kink?
submitted by /u/SageGreenDream
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