Hello there. So, I’m 20yo and my partner and I got together about two months ago. Our relationship is very healthy, we’re very kind and caring to each other, we communicate very openly, there’s really a deep connection with each other. We started having intimacy some time ago now, but only through cuddles, kisses and mutual touching. We started performing penetrative sex a few days ago. (It was not my first time by the way, even though I’m not highly experienced.) To be precise, he went to live at my place for four days due to studies etc. And having so much time just for us turned us into some kinds of love rabbits. However, while at first I succeeded in getting hard enough for that until the end of the intercourse, I then started to have difficulties. For some reason, having an erection became, well, harder. No matter what my partner did. They were very kind and understanding about it, told me it wasn’t important. But I’m still annoyed because that’s how I feel the most physically connected to them. And even with determination, it ultimately fails. As a piece of information, I’m demisexual, so I don’t experience attraction towards people very often at all. But I do experience attraction to my partner. It’s just that my body doesn’t seem to follow. Fortunately, sex isn’t only about penetration, and I still have ways to make my partner happy, and that’s what matters the most to me because what feels the best to me about sex is feeling how much my partner is enjoying it. But it’s still something that makes me worry (which I suppose isn’t helping at all). I’m afraid I could lose attraction towards my partner, for example.
We thought it could be due to tiredness (we are indeed tired, the holidays ended last week and we’re back to university), alongside with the fact that we’ve been quite ‘active’ lately, so maybe my body is too tired and my brain to accustomed to intimate moments that would normally indice much more arousal. We thought it could be better to actually resist our sex drive and have less intimacy in order to let more time for desire to build up.
We’ll spend some days away from each other before reuniting next week. I hope there will be some progress.
Do you have any piece of advice ?
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r/sex Hello there. So, I’m 20yo and my partner and I got together about two months ago. Our relationship is very healthy, we’re very kind and caring to each other, we communicate very openly, there’s really a deep connection with each other. We started having intimacy some time ago now, but only through cuddles, kisses and mutual touching. We started performing penetrative sex a few days ago. (It was not my first time by the way, even though I’m not highly experienced.) To be precise, he went to live at my place for four days due to studies etc. And having so much time just for us turned us into some kinds of love rabbits. However, while at first I succeeded in getting hard enough for that until the end of the intercourse, I then started to have difficulties. For some reason, having an erection became, well, harder. No matter what my partner did. They were very kind and understanding about it, told me it wasn’t important. But I’m still annoyed because that’s how I feel the most physically connected to them. And even with determination, it ultimately fails. As a piece of information, I’m demisexual, so I don’t experience attraction towards people very often at all. But I do experience attraction to my partner. It’s just that my body doesn’t seem to follow. Fortunately, sex isn’t only about penetration, and I still have ways to make my partner happy, and that’s what matters the most to me because what feels the best to me about sex is feeling how much my partner is enjoying it. But it’s still something that makes me worry (which I suppose isn’t helping at all). I’m afraid I could lose attraction towards my partner, for example. We thought it could be due to tiredness (we are indeed tired, the holidays ended last week and we’re back to university), alongside with the fact that we’ve been quite ‘active’ lately, so maybe my body is too tired and my brain to accustomed to intimate moments that would normally indice much more arousal. We thought it could be better to actually resist our sex drive and have less intimacy in order to let more time for desire to build up. We’ll spend some days away from each other before reuniting next week. I hope there will be some progress. Do you have any piece of advice ? submitted by /u/Heleister [link] [comments]
Hello there. So, I’m 20yo and my partner and I got together about two months ago. Our relationship is very healthy, we’re very kind and caring to each other, we communicate very openly, there’s really a deep connection with each other. We started having intimacy some time ago now, but only through cuddles, kisses and mutual touching. We started performing penetrative sex a few days ago. (It was not my first time by the way, even though I’m not highly experienced.) To be precise, he went to live at my place for four days due to studies etc. And having so much time just for us turned us into some kinds of love rabbits. However, while at first I succeeded in getting hard enough for that until the end of the intercourse, I then started to have difficulties. For some reason, having an erection became, well, harder. No matter what my partner did. They were very kind and understanding about it, told me it wasn’t important. But I’m still annoyed because that’s how I feel the most physically connected to them. And even with determination, it ultimately fails. As a piece of information, I’m demisexual, so I don’t experience attraction towards people very often at all. But I do experience attraction to my partner. It’s just that my body doesn’t seem to follow. Fortunately, sex isn’t only about penetration, and I still have ways to make my partner happy, and that’s what matters the most to me because what feels the best to me about sex is feeling how much my partner is enjoying it. But it’s still something that makes me worry (which I suppose isn’t helping at all). I’m afraid I could lose attraction towards my partner, for example.
We thought it could be due to tiredness (we are indeed tired, the holidays ended last week and we’re back to university), alongside with the fact that we’ve been quite ‘active’ lately, so maybe my body is too tired and my brain to accustomed to intimate moments that would normally indice much more arousal. We thought it could be better to actually resist our sex drive and have less intimacy in order to let more time for desire to build up.
We’ll spend some days away from each other before reuniting next week. I hope there will be some progress.
Do you have any piece of advice ?
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