So I finally decided to sleep with the guy I’ve been seeing, it was my first time with anyone (I’m older, like 32). I thought it would go a little different than it did. He knew it was kind of a big deal for me and that I was nervous so I thought maybe he’d go slow, play music etc. Also should mention that for the time I’ve been seeing him (over a year – I had to wait to sleep with him for a few reasons), I’ve been solely pleasuring him, like bjs, sometimes lasting 30-40min, at least twice a day). Basically he just kind of got on top and went straight into the act. There wasn’t any foreplay or anything. I thought maybe he was kind of nervous from the pressure of waiting so long so I gave it more time. It’s been about 7 times now and every time has been the same. He goes straight into the act – sometimes starting with a bj. He doesn’t even really undress me. No foreplay, doesn’t use his hand or warm me up at all so obviously it hurts. He finishes, hands me a tissue and goes and showers first and that’s kind of it. Doesn’t ask if it was good for me or attempt to make me finish. He doesn’t even really try and make me feel good physically. At this point I feel super unattractive and unwanted – like he’s just using me as an outlet for his own pleasure. It’s hard because he’s talked such a a big game about being amazing at sex, and how he goes down of girls and loves it and he’s said before he feels selfish because he doesn’t pleasure me and I feel like he finally had the opportunity and did absolutely nothing for me. Didn’t prioritise me at all. I don’t really know what to do because I feel like if I say something it’ll just make it awkward. Plus I wanted him to want to do it … not do something because I’ve asked for it. don’t feel like I should have to ask. I’m kind of in disbelief considering what I’ve done for him. Like he just rolls over and goes to sleep and I’m lying there staring at the ceiling wondering if he’s even attracted to me. Would be interesting to get a guys perspective. He still says nice things and spends time with me and is affectionate in other ways – like hugs and kisses me, holds my hands etx, I’m just confused I guess.
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r/sex So I finally decided to sleep with the guy I’ve been seeing, it was my first time with anyone (I’m older, like 32). I thought it would go a little different than it did. He knew it was kind of a big deal for me and that I was nervous so I thought maybe he’d go slow, play music etc. Also should mention that for the time I’ve been seeing him (over a year – I had to wait to sleep with him for a few reasons), I’ve been solely pleasuring him, like bjs, sometimes lasting 30-40min, at least twice a day). Basically he just kind of got on top and went straight into the act. There wasn’t any foreplay or anything. I thought maybe he was kind of nervous from the pressure of waiting so long so I gave it more time. It’s been about 7 times now and every time has been the same. He goes straight into the act – sometimes starting with a bj. He doesn’t even really undress me. No foreplay, doesn’t use his hand or warm me up at all so obviously it hurts. He finishes, hands me a tissue and goes and showers first and that’s kind of it. Doesn’t ask if it was good for me or attempt to make me finish. He doesn’t even really try and make me feel good physically. At this point I feel super unattractive and unwanted – like he’s just using me as an outlet for his own pleasure. It’s hard because he’s talked such a a big game about being amazing at sex, and how he goes down of girls and loves it and he’s said before he feels selfish because he doesn’t pleasure me and I feel like he finally had the opportunity and did absolutely nothing for me. Didn’t prioritise me at all. I don’t really know what to do because I feel like if I say something it’ll just make it awkward. Plus I wanted him to want to do it … not do something because I’ve asked for it. don’t feel like I should have to ask. I’m kind of in disbelief considering what I’ve done for him. Like he just rolls over and goes to sleep and I’m lying there staring at the ceiling wondering if he’s even attracted to me. Would be interesting to get a guys perspective. He still says nice things and spends time with me and is affectionate in other ways – like hugs and kisses me, holds my hands etx, I’m just confused I guess. submitted by /u/leaveitinmydreams97 [link] [comments]
So I finally decided to sleep with the guy I’ve been seeing, it was my first time with anyone (I’m older, like 32). I thought it would go a little different than it did. He knew it was kind of a big deal for me and that I was nervous so I thought maybe he’d go slow, play music etc. Also should mention that for the time I’ve been seeing him (over a year – I had to wait to sleep with him for a few reasons), I’ve been solely pleasuring him, like bjs, sometimes lasting 30-40min, at least twice a day). Basically he just kind of got on top and went straight into the act. There wasn’t any foreplay or anything. I thought maybe he was kind of nervous from the pressure of waiting so long so I gave it more time. It’s been about 7 times now and every time has been the same. He goes straight into the act – sometimes starting with a bj. He doesn’t even really undress me. No foreplay, doesn’t use his hand or warm me up at all so obviously it hurts. He finishes, hands me a tissue and goes and showers first and that’s kind of it. Doesn’t ask if it was good for me or attempt to make me finish. He doesn’t even really try and make me feel good physically. At this point I feel super unattractive and unwanted – like he’s just using me as an outlet for his own pleasure. It’s hard because he’s talked such a a big game about being amazing at sex, and how he goes down of girls and loves it and he’s said before he feels selfish because he doesn’t pleasure me and I feel like he finally had the opportunity and did absolutely nothing for me. Didn’t prioritise me at all. I don’t really know what to do because I feel like if I say something it’ll just make it awkward. Plus I wanted him to want to do it … not do something because I’ve asked for it. don’t feel like I should have to ask. I’m kind of in disbelief considering what I’ve done for him. Like he just rolls over and goes to sleep and I’m lying there staring at the ceiling wondering if he’s even attracted to me. Would be interesting to get a guys perspective. He still says nice things and spends time with me and is affectionate in other ways – like hugs and kisses me, holds my hands etx, I’m just confused I guess.
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