Me (24F) and my friend (24M) have known each other for around 10 years. We met in middle school as classmates. We used to play, exchange comic books and pass notes in class. He had a crush on me and every our friends knew it, and I, on the other hand, I did show interest to him, but I think it’s more like we were playing around and the feeling got into my head at that period of time. One day, both of us and my friends were staying at school a bit longer for a little project that my teacher asked me to do, they helped me dealing with it. When all of us split up and headed home, he was at the bus stop I used to wait for buses. I didn’t want to be alone with him because of my avoidant attachment (which I learned few years later), I was afraid of being shown affection especially from the person who I have interest in. So I turned and walked to another bus stop, he followed me and I was seriously freaking out, I kept walking to the next stop until my bus arrived. After this, I barely talked to him till we graduated from middle school. I knew I hurt him a lot by refusing talking to him or even just looking in his eyes.
Years passed, I studied in different high school and university, I also live in different regions so we barely talked or met unless our mutual friends wanted to hang out.
During my university years, he reached out to me and said he still liked me, that made me angry because I thought it is ridiculous, so I refused to talk to him for another few years until I had my first job. I reached out to him this time because I saw the posts of his parrot. I was having a pet bird so I asked him about his parrot, then we just started chatting until now.
It’s been three years that we almost chat everyday. I think about what I did to him a lot, and I hate how I reacted to him back then, but it feels good that we are being friends again. He asked me if I could give him another opportunity to be with me before he served in the army, I didn’t say no to him but I also said that we better talk about this after his duty. Now he finished his training and stuff over half a year, I think he is just afraid of breaking the friendship or whatever we have after all the shit things and so do I. We chat and play games a lot, I suck at League but he still wants me to play with him, and we are playing Baldur’s Gate 3 recently. I do like being friend with him, we have a lot of similarities, overall he is a nice guy and I really really appreciate him that he is still willing to be friend or even more with me after everything, and I feel we are both getting mature with time, which is actually really nice. I haven’t been in a relationship so I don’t really know how this works, I try to accept my imperfection so I can be more open to other people.
Everything is good for now, and I have a new problem: I want to have sex. Like I said I haven’t been in a relationship or had sex before, and I have strong sex drive, I know what I want or what I like. I just need a man, I need to feel the skin and warmth of other people except my family, but I don’t want to do it with strangers on dating apps.
Should I just ask him about it and see how it goes? Or I should just let my horny brain go crazy for craving intimacy with real human? Am I using him if we really do anything after this?
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r/sex Me (24F) and my friend (24M) have known each other for around 10 years. We met in middle school as classmates. We used to play, exchange comic books and pass notes in class. He had a crush on me and every our friends knew it, and I, on the other hand, I did show interest to him, but I think it’s more like we were playing around and the feeling got into my head at that period of time. One day, both of us and my friends were staying at school a bit longer for a little project that my teacher asked me to do, they helped me dealing with it. When all of us split up and headed home, he was at the bus stop I used to wait for buses. I didn’t want to be alone with him because of my avoidant attachment (which I learned few years later), I was afraid of being shown affection especially from the person who I have interest in. So I turned and walked to another bus stop, he followed me and I was seriously freaking out, I kept walking to the next stop until my bus arrived. After this, I barely talked to him till we graduated from middle school. I knew I hurt him a lot by refusing talking to him or even just looking in his eyes. Years passed, I studied in different high school and university, I also live in different regions so we barely talked or met unless our mutual friends wanted to hang out. During my university years, he reached out to me and said he still liked me, that made me angry because I thought it is ridiculous, so I refused to talk to him for another few years until I had my first job. I reached out to him this time because I saw the posts of his parrot. I was having a pet bird so I asked him about his parrot, then we just started chatting until now. It’s been three years that we almost chat everyday. I think about what I did to him a lot, and I hate how I reacted to him back then, but it feels good that we are being friends again. He asked me if I could give him another opportunity to be with me before he served in the army, I didn’t say no to him but I also said that we better talk about this after his duty. Now he finished his training and stuff over half a year, I think he is just afraid of breaking the friendship or whatever we have after all the shit things and so do I. We chat and play games a lot, I suck at League but he still wants me to play with him, and we are playing Baldur’s Gate 3 recently. I do like being friend with him, we have a lot of similarities, overall he is a nice guy and I really really appreciate him that he is still willing to be friend or even more with me after everything, and I feel we are both getting mature with time, which is actually really nice. I haven’t been in a relationship so I don’t really know how this works, I try to accept my imperfection so I can be more open to other people. Everything is good for now, and I have a new problem: I want to have sex. Like I said I haven’t been in a relationship or had sex before, and I have strong sex drive, I know what I want or what I like. I just need a man, I need to feel the skin and warmth of other people except my family, but I don’t want to do it with strangers on dating apps. Should I just ask him about it and see how it goes? Or I should just let my horny brain go crazy for craving intimacy with real human? Am I using him if we really do anything after this? submitted by /u/Ancient-Passenger690 [link] [comments]
Me (24F) and my friend (24M) have known each other for around 10 years. We met in middle school as classmates. We used to play, exchange comic books and pass notes in class. He had a crush on me and every our friends knew it, and I, on the other hand, I did show interest to him, but I think it’s more like we were playing around and the feeling got into my head at that period of time. One day, both of us and my friends were staying at school a bit longer for a little project that my teacher asked me to do, they helped me dealing with it. When all of us split up and headed home, he was at the bus stop I used to wait for buses. I didn’t want to be alone with him because of my avoidant attachment (which I learned few years later), I was afraid of being shown affection especially from the person who I have interest in. So I turned and walked to another bus stop, he followed me and I was seriously freaking out, I kept walking to the next stop until my bus arrived. After this, I barely talked to him till we graduated from middle school. I knew I hurt him a lot by refusing talking to him or even just looking in his eyes.
Years passed, I studied in different high school and university, I also live in different regions so we barely talked or met unless our mutual friends wanted to hang out.
During my university years, he reached out to me and said he still liked me, that made me angry because I thought it is ridiculous, so I refused to talk to him for another few years until I had my first job. I reached out to him this time because I saw the posts of his parrot. I was having a pet bird so I asked him about his parrot, then we just started chatting until now.
It’s been three years that we almost chat everyday. I think about what I did to him a lot, and I hate how I reacted to him back then, but it feels good that we are being friends again. He asked me if I could give him another opportunity to be with me before he served in the army, I didn’t say no to him but I also said that we better talk about this after his duty. Now he finished his training and stuff over half a year, I think he is just afraid of breaking the friendship or whatever we have after all the shit things and so do I. We chat and play games a lot, I suck at League but he still wants me to play with him, and we are playing Baldur’s Gate 3 recently. I do like being friend with him, we have a lot of similarities, overall he is a nice guy and I really really appreciate him that he is still willing to be friend or even more with me after everything, and I feel we are both getting mature with time, which is actually really nice. I haven’t been in a relationship so I don’t really know how this works, I try to accept my imperfection so I can be more open to other people.
Everything is good for now, and I have a new problem: I want to have sex. Like I said I haven’t been in a relationship or had sex before, and I have strong sex drive, I know what I want or what I like. I just need a man, I need to feel the skin and warmth of other people except my family, but I don’t want to do it with strangers on dating apps.
Should I just ask him about it and see how it goes? Or I should just let my horny brain go crazy for craving intimacy with real human? Am I using him if we really do anything after this?
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