Growing up while they covered my most basic needs of food and shelter my parents were often quite hurtful and emotionally neglectful. They were also cold and not affectionate at all, they would blame me for things unnecessarily, and I could never talk to them about these issues because they’d either get defensive or turn it back on to how it was my fault.
On the other hand though on the surface they were generally nice people and we frequently did family things together so it makes me think the way they treated me was because they stupidly believed it was how a parent should treat their child. They think they were good parents because their parents were even worse.
The issue for me is they never “crossed the line” into the point where it would be clearly best to cut them out of my life because despite their stupidity they did provide at least some value.
All my adulthood and a lot of my childhood I’ve had this feeling of resentment towards my parents for how they treated me and knowing even now they’re in their 50s and 60s they still wouldn’t understand or care enough to try to understand me.
Honestly growing up with parents like them has really discouraged me from ever risking having children myself which also scares me off having relationships.
How do I overcome this feeling of resentment towards them and the constant reminder of the negative aspect of my childhood.
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r/NoStupidQuestions Growing up while they covered my most basic needs of food and shelter my parents were often quite hurtful and emotionally neglectful. They were also cold and not affectionate at all, they would blame me for things unnecessarily, and I could never talk to them about these issues because they’d either get defensive or turn it back on to how it was my fault. On the other hand though on the surface they were generally nice people and we frequently did family things together so it makes me think the way they treated me was because they stupidly believed it was how a parent should treat their child. They think they were good parents because their parents were even worse. The issue for me is they never “crossed the line” into the point where it would be clearly best to cut them out of my life because despite their stupidity they did provide at least some value. All my adulthood and a lot of my childhood I’ve had this feeling of resentment towards my parents for how they treated me and knowing even now they’re in their 50s and 60s they still wouldn’t understand or care enough to try to understand me. Honestly growing up with parents like them has really discouraged me from ever risking having children myself which also scares me off having relationships. How do I overcome this feeling of resentment towards them and the constant reminder of the negative aspect of my childhood. submitted by /u/Discontitulated [link] [comments]
Growing up while they covered my most basic needs of food and shelter my parents were often quite hurtful and emotionally neglectful. They were also cold and not affectionate at all, they would blame me for things unnecessarily, and I could never talk to them about these issues because they’d either get defensive or turn it back on to how it was my fault.
On the other hand though on the surface they were generally nice people and we frequently did family things together so it makes me think the way they treated me was because they stupidly believed it was how a parent should treat their child. They think they were good parents because their parents were even worse.
The issue for me is they never “crossed the line” into the point where it would be clearly best to cut them out of my life because despite their stupidity they did provide at least some value.
All my adulthood and a lot of my childhood I’ve had this feeling of resentment towards my parents for how they treated me and knowing even now they’re in their 50s and 60s they still wouldn’t understand or care enough to try to understand me.
Honestly growing up with parents like them has really discouraged me from ever risking having children myself which also scares me off having relationships.
How do I overcome this feeling of resentment towards them and the constant reminder of the negative aspect of my childhood.
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