Should I need to ask to do the kinks I enjoy every time? /u/Top_Problem_7375 Sex

My wife (35F) and I (36M) have a fairly varied sex life. I have a fair few kinks such as pegging, (edit: receiving) impact play and rope play (edit: me being tied) while she is fairly vanilla.

We’ve been together a long time and during that time our sex life has evolved and we’ve done a lot of exploring. I’ve asked many times what she likes or if she’d like to try anything new and it’s always come back that there isn’t and she’s happily fairly vanilla.

With the kinks I like, she likes them too; they’re within her boundaries and when I ask to do them she generally agrees (obviously depending on mood). But the issue is it’s always me asking and (in my memory) they’ve never been offered. This was okay to an extent but as time has gone on I’ve gotten this feeling that she doesn’t want to do it and it basically feels like I’m begging. Sometimes we can go months without doing some things that I enjoy because the onus is on me to ask.

Of the things we do that she likes, I try and vary it up and if she ever came to me to say that she has something she wants to try I would be supportive and almost certainly do it. But I don’t feel like I get that back.

We’ve tried talking about it but I think she feels attacked. Conversely, if we don’t talk about it I feel neglected.

Essentially my question is, should I need to ask on every occasion I want something?

My wife (35F) and I (36M) have a fairly varied sex life. I have a fair few kinks such as pegging, (edit: receiving) impact play and rope play (edit: me being tied) while she is fairly vanilla.

We’ve been together a long time and during that time our sex life has evolved and we’ve done a lot of exploring. I’ve asked many times what she likes or if she’d like to try anything new and it’s always come back that there isn’t and she’s happily fairly vanilla.

With the kinks I like, she likes them too; they’re within her boundaries and when I ask to do them she generally agrees (obviously depending on mood). But the issue is it’s always me asking and (in my memory) they’ve never been offered. This was okay to an extent but as time has gone on I’ve gotten this feeling that she doesn’t want to do it and it basically feels like I’m begging. Sometimes we can go months without doing some things that I enjoy because the onus is on me to ask.

Of the things we do that she likes, I try and vary it up and if she ever came to me to say that she has something she wants to try I would be supportive and almost certainly do it. But I don’t feel like I get that back.

We’ve tried talking about it but I think she feels attacked. Conversely, if we don’t talk about it I feel neglected.

Essentially my question is, should I need to ask on every occasion I want something?