ive been with my partner for over 5 years now. in the beginning of our relationship, we had sex somewhat regularly, and then, as sexuality is fluid, i was identifying as asexual for a while. then, we moved in together and were having sex more regularly again, and now we’re not.
part of the problem is that my partner is a vers and i tend more towards being submissive. topping is very difficult for me. i get stuck inside my own head, overthinking what im doing to make them feel good, and i end up hurting them because im not fully paying attention to my hands. sometimes me being stuck in my own head is so bad i can’t do anything at all, especially initiating.
how do i get out of my head and start actually being part of sex with my partner? how do i get over the anxiety that they’re not feeling good and would rather be doing anything else? how do i stop feeling like im just not good enough?
for context, we’re both FtM. my previous sexual partner was a cis man who always wanted to be dominant.
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r/sex ive been with my partner for over 5 years now. in the beginning of our relationship, we had sex somewhat regularly, and then, as sexuality is fluid, i was identifying as asexual for a while. then, we moved in together and were having sex more regularly again, and now we’re not. part of the problem is that my partner is a vers and i tend more towards being submissive. topping is very difficult for me. i get stuck inside my own head, overthinking what im doing to make them feel good, and i end up hurting them because im not fully paying attention to my hands. sometimes me being stuck in my own head is so bad i can’t do anything at all, especially initiating. how do i get out of my head and start actually being part of sex with my partner? how do i get over the anxiety that they’re not feeling good and would rather be doing anything else? how do i stop feeling like im just not good enough? for context, we’re both FtM. my previous sexual partner was a cis man who always wanted to be dominant. submitted by /u/wouldyoukindly8 [link] [comments]
ive been with my partner for over 5 years now. in the beginning of our relationship, we had sex somewhat regularly, and then, as sexuality is fluid, i was identifying as asexual for a while. then, we moved in together and were having sex more regularly again, and now we’re not.
part of the problem is that my partner is a vers and i tend more towards being submissive. topping is very difficult for me. i get stuck inside my own head, overthinking what im doing to make them feel good, and i end up hurting them because im not fully paying attention to my hands. sometimes me being stuck in my own head is so bad i can’t do anything at all, especially initiating.
how do i get out of my head and start actually being part of sex with my partner? how do i get over the anxiety that they’re not feeling good and would rather be doing anything else? how do i stop feeling like im just not good enough?
for context, we’re both FtM. my previous sexual partner was a cis man who always wanted to be dominant.
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