I recently was sleeping with a person who, I will call Lenny. Lenny and I met off a dating app and are still learning about each other. However when it comes to sex and communication it feels like we have shared a lifetime of understanding.
To be frank Lenny likes CNC. This is an entirely new concept to me as I’ve only seen it in porn (literally not real) Nothing out of the ordinary or what I am usual to has scared me (spit swap, biting, choking, belt, play fighting, axilisim). Lenny is diagnosed with ADHD and I notice one tick comes up A LOT. the same movement will be done 10+ times in a minute span and yes as also diagnosed with ADHD I do count.
Lenny will continue to be functional, talk but must be consoled immediately after the tick. In the middle of me touching them where they typically “pick at” they whispered “I like your puppy whistle.”
This is the first time in my life I haven’t overthought someone after sleeping with them. I’ve been out the dating scene for years – Lenny and I were joking the other day, and agreed we would be together if we met at an earlier time. The sex is very fun, open, and communicative.
How do you or continue to support a partner with kinks? I find myself either inching towards an assumption about them – I know I should speak to Lenny to learn more. CNC isn’t a catchall for all victims but I notice how important submitting to me is and I like it. I really like Lenny and want to be with them, they also said that a relationship with me is something they would like. What can I do to make the best decision here to support them? The tick also comes up outside of sex and asserting dominance over them seems make them feel safe enough stop.
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r/sex I recently was sleeping with a person who, I will call Lenny. Lenny and I met off a dating app and are still learning about each other. However when it comes to sex and communication it feels like we have shared a lifetime of understanding. To be frank Lenny likes CNC. This is an entirely new concept to me as I’ve only seen it in porn (literally not real) Nothing out of the ordinary or what I am usual to has scared me (spit swap, biting, choking, belt, play fighting, axilisim). Lenny is diagnosed with ADHD and I notice one tick comes up A LOT. the same movement will be done 10+ times in a minute span and yes as also diagnosed with ADHD I do count. Lenny will continue to be functional, talk but must be consoled immediately after the tick. In the middle of me touching them where they typically “pick at” they whispered “I like your puppy whistle.” This is the first time in my life I haven’t overthought someone after sleeping with them. I’ve been out the dating scene for years – Lenny and I were joking the other day, and agreed we would be together if we met at an earlier time. The sex is very fun, open, and communicative. How do you or continue to support a partner with kinks? I find myself either inching towards an assumption about them – I know I should speak to Lenny to learn more. CNC isn’t a catchall for all victims but I notice how important submitting to me is and I like it. I really like Lenny and want to be with them, they also said that a relationship with me is something they would like. What can I do to make the best decision here to support them? The tick also comes up outside of sex and asserting dominance over them seems make them feel safe enough stop. submitted by /u/torssh [link] [comments]
I recently was sleeping with a person who, I will call Lenny. Lenny and I met off a dating app and are still learning about each other. However when it comes to sex and communication it feels like we have shared a lifetime of understanding.
To be frank Lenny likes CNC. This is an entirely new concept to me as I’ve only seen it in porn (literally not real) Nothing out of the ordinary or what I am usual to has scared me (spit swap, biting, choking, belt, play fighting, axilisim). Lenny is diagnosed with ADHD and I notice one tick comes up A LOT. the same movement will be done 10+ times in a minute span and yes as also diagnosed with ADHD I do count.
Lenny will continue to be functional, talk but must be consoled immediately after the tick. In the middle of me touching them where they typically “pick at” they whispered “I like your puppy whistle.”
This is the first time in my life I haven’t overthought someone after sleeping with them. I’ve been out the dating scene for years – Lenny and I were joking the other day, and agreed we would be together if we met at an earlier time. The sex is very fun, open, and communicative.
How do you or continue to support a partner with kinks? I find myself either inching towards an assumption about them – I know I should speak to Lenny to learn more. CNC isn’t a catchall for all victims but I notice how important submitting to me is and I like it. I really like Lenny and want to be with them, they also said that a relationship with me is something they would like. What can I do to make the best decision here to support them? The tick also comes up outside of sex and asserting dominance over them seems make them feel safe enough stop.
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