My wife (39F) and I (41M) have been together for almost 20 years. Recently our life with working full time and young children has gotten increasingly busy and stressful, as it does.
The last x number of times we’ve had sex she was unable to orgasm. We both finish 99% of the time so needless to say we were both disappointed. She mentioned she has been having a hard time getting “ready” with the limited window we have. Going from cold to ready for intimacy.
The logical answer is to increase forplay but she’s never been big into it. She doesn’t care for oral, she doesn’t like sex toys outside of a rabbit vibrator. We have fallen into a routine where she strokes me and I give her a g spot massage while she uses the vibrator.
I asked her what I can do for her and she says she isn’t sure. What I think the issue is she is a naturally anxious person and given the nature of things, has a hard time getting into sexy mode.
I guess my question is do any of you otherwise busy folks have any tips for getting in the zone in a relatively quicker fashion? How do you get your mind right for sex when your schedule is packed tight? Any advice is welcome. Thanks!
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r/sex My wife (39F) and I (41M) have been together for almost 20 years. Recently our life with working full time and young children has gotten increasingly busy and stressful, as it does. The last x number of times we’ve had sex she was unable to orgasm. We both finish 99% of the time so needless to say we were both disappointed. She mentioned she has been having a hard time getting “ready” with the limited window we have. Going from cold to ready for intimacy. The logical answer is to increase forplay but she’s never been big into it. She doesn’t care for oral, she doesn’t like sex toys outside of a rabbit vibrator. We have fallen into a routine where she strokes me and I give her a g spot massage while she uses the vibrator. I asked her what I can do for her and she says she isn’t sure. What I think the issue is she is a naturally anxious person and given the nature of things, has a hard time getting into sexy mode. I guess my question is do any of you otherwise busy folks have any tips for getting in the zone in a relatively quicker fashion? How do you get your mind right for sex when your schedule is packed tight? Any advice is welcome. Thanks! submitted by /u/Mean-Kangaroo-3610 [link] [comments]
My wife (39F) and I (41M) have been together for almost 20 years. Recently our life with working full time and young children has gotten increasingly busy and stressful, as it does.
The last x number of times we’ve had sex she was unable to orgasm. We both finish 99% of the time so needless to say we were both disappointed. She mentioned she has been having a hard time getting “ready” with the limited window we have. Going from cold to ready for intimacy.
The logical answer is to increase forplay but she’s never been big into it. She doesn’t care for oral, she doesn’t like sex toys outside of a rabbit vibrator. We have fallen into a routine where she strokes me and I give her a g spot massage while she uses the vibrator.
I asked her what I can do for her and she says she isn’t sure. What I think the issue is she is a naturally anxious person and given the nature of things, has a hard time getting into sexy mode.
I guess my question is do any of you otherwise busy folks have any tips for getting in the zone in a relatively quicker fashion? How do you get your mind right for sex when your schedule is packed tight? Any advice is welcome. Thanks!
submitted by /u/Mean-Kangaroo-3610
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