He just isn’t pleasing me, I have no other words. I have brought this up to him many times. Now we’ve been together for about 1.5 years and while the sex has gotten better, it hasn’t gotten good. It either doesn’t last long enough, I’m not getting stimulation I need, or the mood will get ruined when I tell him I haven’t came yet and he’ll get soft. Last night we decided to get it on and he lasted maybe 5 mins after head. We started in a pretty basic side position (it’s actually one of my favorites) and he couldn’t keep it for more than 2 mins, then we went to doggy and just as things started to get fun he finished. He said he wanted to keep going so we did, for maybe 2 mins before he said that he couldn’t keep going. I didn’t make a big deal about it, it was obvious I haven’t came yet, I knew he felt bad already so I didn’t say anything and left it alone. We laid down for bed and he asked me if I was okay, other than the obvious I told him I was fine. This morning he woke up and asked me if I was okay, I was honest, “I’m sexually frustrated”. His response was simple but it upset me “I know you are, I’m not stupid”. The only question that ran through my mind was if you knew I was sexually frustrated why haven’t you helped me. Skipping a lot of bs the conversation basically ended on him telling me that I don’t communicate enough. Which isn’t true, I’ve communicated what I liked to him in and out of the bedroom. But he’s saying I need to guide him every time. I could be being a diva but I know everything he does and doesn’t like. We’ve been together for almost 2 years it makes sense I do. And hypothetically I do walk him through every session, they never last long enough for us to even get through the steps. I just want to be able to let go and be submissive to his body. He doesn’t even initiate good foreplay and will go in even if I’m completely dry. I don’t know what to do. I love him I really do and I think this is who I want to spend my life with, but I also know that I can’t live with bad sex. It feels wrong to break up over sex but it feels like no matter what we do he can’t make me finish or even some what satisfied. Every time we get intimate it makes me want more, but not in a “I can’t wait until he fucks me again” but in more of an “damn that was unsatisfying and i need something that can give me that” I don’t want to marry him and hold a grudge against him for the rest of my life. What should I do? Foreplay does happen occasionally and even then I’m not orgasming. He’s given me head maybe 7 times since we’ve been together, anytime he’s down there for like 5 mins before his jaw hurts and he has to stop. And when he fingers me it feels like no matter how I guide him he still just can’t hit the spot. I’ve mentioned sex toys and they make him uncomfortable, I feel like he sees them as competition. I don’t want to lose a beautiful relationship just because the sex is mid.
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r/sex He just isn’t pleasing me, I have no other words. I have brought this up to him many times. Now we’ve been together for about 1.5 years and while the sex has gotten better, it hasn’t gotten good. It either doesn’t last long enough, I’m not getting stimulation I need, or the mood will get ruined when I tell him I haven’t came yet and he’ll get soft. Last night we decided to get it on and he lasted maybe 5 mins after head. We started in a pretty basic side position (it’s actually one of my favorites) and he couldn’t keep it for more than 2 mins, then we went to doggy and just as things started to get fun he finished. He said he wanted to keep going so we did, for maybe 2 mins before he said that he couldn’t keep going. I didn’t make a big deal about it, it was obvious I haven’t came yet, I knew he felt bad already so I didn’t say anything and left it alone. We laid down for bed and he asked me if I was okay, other than the obvious I told him I was fine. This morning he woke up and asked me if I was okay, I was honest, “I’m sexually frustrated”. His response was simple but it upset me “I know you are, I’m not stupid”. The only question that ran through my mind was if you knew I was sexually frustrated why haven’t you helped me. Skipping a lot of bs the conversation basically ended on him telling me that I don’t communicate enough. Which isn’t true, I’ve communicated what I liked to him in and out of the bedroom. But he’s saying I need to guide him every time. I could be being a diva but I know everything he does and doesn’t like. We’ve been together for almost 2 years it makes sense I do. And hypothetically I do walk him through every session, they never last long enough for us to even get through the steps. I just want to be able to let go and be submissive to his body. He doesn’t even initiate good foreplay and will go in even if I’m completely dry. I don’t know what to do. I love him I really do and I think this is who I want to spend my life with, but I also know that I can’t live with bad sex. It feels wrong to break up over sex but it feels like no matter what we do he can’t make me finish or even some what satisfied. Every time we get intimate it makes me want more, but not in a “I can’t wait until he fucks me again” but in more of an “damn that was unsatisfying and i need something that can give me that” I don’t want to marry him and hold a grudge against him for the rest of my life. What should I do? Foreplay does happen occasionally and even then I’m not orgasming. He’s given me head maybe 7 times since we’ve been together, anytime he’s down there for like 5 mins before his jaw hurts and he has to stop. And when he fingers me it feels like no matter how I guide him he still just can’t hit the spot. I’ve mentioned sex toys and they make him uncomfortable, I feel like he sees them as competition. I don’t want to lose a beautiful relationship just because the sex is mid. submitted by /u/BlackberryBlerd [link] [comments]
He just isn’t pleasing me, I have no other words. I have brought this up to him many times. Now we’ve been together for about 1.5 years and while the sex has gotten better, it hasn’t gotten good. It either doesn’t last long enough, I’m not getting stimulation I need, or the mood will get ruined when I tell him I haven’t came yet and he’ll get soft. Last night we decided to get it on and he lasted maybe 5 mins after head. We started in a pretty basic side position (it’s actually one of my favorites) and he couldn’t keep it for more than 2 mins, then we went to doggy and just as things started to get fun he finished. He said he wanted to keep going so we did, for maybe 2 mins before he said that he couldn’t keep going. I didn’t make a big deal about it, it was obvious I haven’t came yet, I knew he felt bad already so I didn’t say anything and left it alone. We laid down for bed and he asked me if I was okay, other than the obvious I told him I was fine. This morning he woke up and asked me if I was okay, I was honest, “I’m sexually frustrated”. His response was simple but it upset me “I know you are, I’m not stupid”. The only question that ran through my mind was if you knew I was sexually frustrated why haven’t you helped me. Skipping a lot of bs the conversation basically ended on him telling me that I don’t communicate enough. Which isn’t true, I’ve communicated what I liked to him in and out of the bedroom. But he’s saying I need to guide him every time. I could be being a diva but I know everything he does and doesn’t like. We’ve been together for almost 2 years it makes sense I do. And hypothetically I do walk him through every session, they never last long enough for us to even get through the steps. I just want to be able to let go and be submissive to his body. He doesn’t even initiate good foreplay and will go in even if I’m completely dry. I don’t know what to do. I love him I really do and I think this is who I want to spend my life with, but I also know that I can’t live with bad sex. It feels wrong to break up over sex but it feels like no matter what we do he can’t make me finish or even some what satisfied. Every time we get intimate it makes me want more, but not in a “I can’t wait until he fucks me again” but in more of an “damn that was unsatisfying and i need something that can give me that” I don’t want to marry him and hold a grudge against him for the rest of my life. What should I do? Foreplay does happen occasionally and even then I’m not orgasming. He’s given me head maybe 7 times since we’ve been together, anytime he’s down there for like 5 mins before his jaw hurts and he has to stop. And when he fingers me it feels like no matter how I guide him he still just can’t hit the spot. I’ve mentioned sex toys and they make him uncomfortable, I feel like he sees them as competition. I don’t want to lose a beautiful relationship just because the sex is mid.
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