Struggling to Stay Hard During Vaginal Sex – Need Advice /u/FrozenDoubt Sex

I’m 28 and recently lost my virginity. My partner is more experienced and much younger (21), and I’ve been struggling with staying hard during vaginal sex. The strange part is I can stay hard for a long time during oral and hand stimulation, but as soon as I transition to penetration, I lose my erection within 30 seconds.

I’m feeling really anxious about this and scared that I’ll never overcome it, which makes me worried about the future of my relationship.

This has also made me feel really bad, i‘m at a point where i don‘t wanna talk to anyone about my Relationship because i feel so useless. It feels like such a basic thing that nobody ever struggles with why can‘t I just be normal? I am very frustrated and sad about this and it‘s affecting me a lot.

Has anyone gone through something similar? Any advice on how to retrain my body or get out of this mental loop would.

I’m 28 and recently lost my virginity. My partner is more experienced and much younger (21), and I’ve been struggling with staying hard during vaginal sex. The strange part is I can stay hard for a long time during oral and hand stimulation, but as soon as I transition to penetration, I lose my erection within 30 seconds.

I’m feeling really anxious about this and scared that I’ll never overcome it, which makes me worried about the future of my relationship.

This has also made me feel really bad, i‘m at a point where i don‘t wanna talk to anyone about my Relationship because i feel so useless. It feels like such a basic thing that nobody ever struggles with why can‘t I just be normal? I am very frustrated and sad about this and it‘s affecting me a lot.

Has anyone gone through something similar? Any advice on how to retrain my body or get out of this mental loop would.