I’m about to be pretty vulnerable, would appreciate if people were understanding. I’m a (recovering) people pleaser to my core. And was shy in my early adult life/working through personal things, so I didnt lose my virginity until 22. It was with someone who I really trusted and felt connected to. they made me feel safe enough to open up in that way, i dont think i wouldve for awhile without them.
I’m 25 now, and I’ve never been in a relationship. I put myself out there the past couple years deeming it as “exploring”, when really, I was letting mediocre men have access to my body. I let my guard down too far, my body was everyone elses but mine. I think part was genuinely exploring my sexuality after being ashamed for years about being open in that way, but more so, i think I was seeking temporary validation cause i didnt think i was ready for a relationship / was afraid of intimacy. I had no boundaries, or standards, and now looking back after my major mental breakthrough the past week, I feel gross about majority of those experiences. They werent bad, i had great sex and learnt a lot. but right now i dont feel sexy. i dont feel free. i know im attractive, but I’m starting to feel that shame creep in again.
I’ve cut off all sexual partners rn, and im not even dating due to getting too emotionally invested in a man who was probably just after sex. How do i feel sexy in a new headspace like this? And while taking a break from sex?
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r/sex I’m about to be pretty vulnerable, would appreciate if people were understanding. I’m a (recovering) people pleaser to my core. And was shy in my early adult life/working through personal things, so I didnt lose my virginity until 22. It was with someone who I really trusted and felt connected to. they made me feel safe enough to open up in that way, i dont think i wouldve for awhile without them. I’m 25 now, and I’ve never been in a relationship. I put myself out there the past couple years deeming it as “exploring”, when really, I was letting mediocre men have access to my body. I let my guard down too far, my body was everyone elses but mine. I think part was genuinely exploring my sexuality after being ashamed for years about being open in that way, but more so, i think I was seeking temporary validation cause i didnt think i was ready for a relationship / was afraid of intimacy. I had no boundaries, or standards, and now looking back after my major mental breakthrough the past week, I feel gross about majority of those experiences. They werent bad, i had great sex and learnt a lot. but right now i dont feel sexy. i dont feel free. i know im attractive, but I’m starting to feel that shame creep in again. I’ve cut off all sexual partners rn, and im not even dating due to getting too emotionally invested in a man who was probably just after sex. How do i feel sexy in a new headspace like this? And while taking a break from sex? submitted by /u/DifferentWatch4451 [link] [comments]
I’m about to be pretty vulnerable, would appreciate if people were understanding. I’m a (recovering) people pleaser to my core. And was shy in my early adult life/working through personal things, so I didnt lose my virginity until 22. It was with someone who I really trusted and felt connected to. they made me feel safe enough to open up in that way, i dont think i wouldve for awhile without them.
I’m 25 now, and I’ve never been in a relationship. I put myself out there the past couple years deeming it as “exploring”, when really, I was letting mediocre men have access to my body. I let my guard down too far, my body was everyone elses but mine. I think part was genuinely exploring my sexuality after being ashamed for years about being open in that way, but more so, i think I was seeking temporary validation cause i didnt think i was ready for a relationship / was afraid of intimacy. I had no boundaries, or standards, and now looking back after my major mental breakthrough the past week, I feel gross about majority of those experiences. They werent bad, i had great sex and learnt a lot. but right now i dont feel sexy. i dont feel free. i know im attractive, but I’m starting to feel that shame creep in again.
I’ve cut off all sexual partners rn, and im not even dating due to getting too emotionally invested in a man who was probably just after sex. How do i feel sexy in a new headspace like this? And while taking a break from sex?
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