He put it in without asking /u/Alert_Measurement709 Sex

I never post on Reddit but need some objective opinions from others about something I’ve experienced recently. I don’t have much sexual experience before this. I (22F) have been going on dates with this guy (23M) (more sexually experienced than me) for the last month or so. I slept with him on the fourth date, and he was respectful and asked before penetration, and was also agreeable about using a condom. A few dates later, our third time sleeping with each other, we were in the middle of foreplay and he had been fingering me while I was lying face down across his legs (so I couldn’t see what he was doing) Suddenly, the sensation changed and I initially thought he put his thumb inside me. I quickly realised it was his penis, without a condom and without asking. I immediately called him out on it and he was apologetic. I told him then that I wasn’t on birth control (I know, I obviously should have said that to him before we had sex the first time, so that is admittedly my fault). I made it clear then that he absolutely needs to ask before penetration, and we did proceed to have sex with a condom (he did express some distaste for condoms but didn’t make me feel bad or pressure me and still agreed to using one). It’s been a few days since and I don’t know how to feel. Do men usually assume trying things like this is ok? Was this wildly disrespectful and should I break it off now or should I give him a second chance to respect my boundaries? He has otherwise been a genuinely nice, thoughtful and mature person to date and is very intelligent. He also has not otherwise been an asshole in bed (invested in my pleasure too and gives aftercare etc etc.), which makes me want to give him a second chance but also further adds to my confusion on why he tried something like that. Any advice appreciated!

I never post on Reddit but need some objective opinions from others about something I’ve experienced recently. I don’t have much sexual experience before this. I (22F) have been going on dates with this guy (23M) (more sexually experienced than me) for the last month or so. I slept with him on the fourth date, and he was respectful and asked before penetration, and was also agreeable about using a condom. A few dates later, our third time sleeping with each other, we were in the middle of foreplay and he had been fingering me while I was lying face down across his legs (so I couldn’t see what he was doing) Suddenly, the sensation changed and I initially thought he put his thumb inside me. I quickly realised it was his penis, without a condom and without asking. I immediately called him out on it and he was apologetic. I told him then that I wasn’t on birth control (I know, I obviously should have said that to him before we had sex the first time, so that is admittedly my fault). I made it clear then that he absolutely needs to ask before penetration, and we did proceed to have sex with a condom (he did express some distaste for condoms but didn’t make me feel bad or pressure me and still agreed to using one). It’s been a few days since and I don’t know how to feel. Do men usually assume trying things like this is ok? Was this wildly disrespectful and should I break it off now or should I give him a second chance to respect my boundaries? He has otherwise been a genuinely nice, thoughtful and mature person to date and is very intelligent. He also has not otherwise been an asshole in bed (invested in my pleasure too and gives aftercare etc etc.), which makes me want to give him a second chance but also further adds to my confusion on why he tried something like that. Any advice appreciated!