I’m a 44M and over the years I have struggled with fantasies of imagining my partner sending me videos of her having and enjoying sex with men that were not me. When I was younger it initially felt humiliating having these thoughts, but in the last ten years I’ve not only accepted it but I’ve also shared that info with partners to give them the opportunity to consider. At some point during my research in trying to understand it better I learned the word ‘compersion’ and it really resonated with me because I truly feel happiness in seeing my partner experiencing pleasure and seeing that happiness is the core of what has driven me sexually.
I’m obviously not alone but it made me wonder how many people are/were in monogamous relationships that have had similar thoughts/feelings? I’ve realized that it’s merely a sexual extension of the joy I feel when I see someone else experiencing joy in non-sexual situations and completely made sense. Is this more common than I’m aware of outside of the poly community?
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r/sex I’m a 44M and over the years I have struggled with fantasies of imagining my partner sending me videos of her having and enjoying sex with men that were not me. When I was younger it initially felt humiliating having these thoughts, but in the last ten years I’ve not only accepted it but I’ve also shared that info with partners to give them the opportunity to consider. At some point during my research in trying to understand it better I learned the word ‘compersion’ and it really resonated with me because I truly feel happiness in seeing my partner experiencing pleasure and seeing that happiness is the core of what has driven me sexually. I’m obviously not alone but it made me wonder how many people are/were in monogamous relationships that have had similar thoughts/feelings? I’ve realized that it’s merely a sexual extension of the joy I feel when I see someone else experiencing joy in non-sexual situations and completely made sense. Is this more common than I’m aware of outside of the poly community? submitted by /u/Dyn085 [link] [comments]
I’m a 44M and over the years I have struggled with fantasies of imagining my partner sending me videos of her having and enjoying sex with men that were not me. When I was younger it initially felt humiliating having these thoughts, but in the last ten years I’ve not only accepted it but I’ve also shared that info with partners to give them the opportunity to consider. At some point during my research in trying to understand it better I learned the word ‘compersion’ and it really resonated with me because I truly feel happiness in seeing my partner experiencing pleasure and seeing that happiness is the core of what has driven me sexually.
I’m obviously not alone but it made me wonder how many people are/were in monogamous relationships that have had similar thoughts/feelings? I’ve realized that it’s merely a sexual extension of the joy I feel when I see someone else experiencing joy in non-sexual situations and completely made sense. Is this more common than I’m aware of outside of the poly community?
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