(throwaway account) I (19F) have been seeing a guy (19M) for three months, he’s very sweet and romantic, he was raised with good rolemodels when it comes to relationships. I am his first relationship, I am his first everything actually, he never saw a point in being with anyone physically if he didn’t like them enough. Well, I have a really high libido and sometimes can’t help myself. The first time i tried to give him a blowjob he went soft, and after he got hard again he just couldn’t come. We talked about it, and he said he was really nervous because he didn’t want to disappoint me and he’s really scared of doing things wrong. I gave him reassurance and said there is not really a way of “doing things wrong” and i reiterated that I didn’t want to pressure him or to do things he isn’t ready for, he replied he thought “he was ready, but apparently not”. I asked him if he wanted to continue experimenting in this way, and he said so. However, I’m still sort of scared of going too far, I have been in uncomfortable situations sexually before, I don’t want the same to happen to him. I’ve brought up this fear afterwards too, he said if he was uncomfortable he would say so. I might be overthinking it, but I’m really scared of overstepping boundaries he doesn’t know he has yet and that has really put me off of trying to go any further (even if i really want to). Any advice on helping an inexperienced guy set boundaries, in order to keep advancing sexually? He has a really hard time communicating certain things since this is all very new to him, i make sure to always ask a lot of questions (and for consent before doing anything!), but it feels like playing a guessing game… During dirty talk he has also expressed desire to have sex, but sometimes you just say stuff when you’re horny lol I don’t know if i should take it seriously (as in, it’s normal to want sex when you’re in an intimate situation, but that doesn’t necessarily translate into being ready for it) Any help will be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
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r/sex (throwaway account) I (19F) have been seeing a guy (19M) for three months, he’s very sweet and romantic, he was raised with good rolemodels when it comes to relationships. I am his first relationship, I am his first everything actually, he never saw a point in being with anyone physically if he didn’t like them enough. Well, I have a really high libido and sometimes can’t help myself. The first time i tried to give him a blowjob he went soft, and after he got hard again he just couldn’t come. We talked about it, and he said he was really nervous because he didn’t want to disappoint me and he’s really scared of doing things wrong. I gave him reassurance and said there is not really a way of “doing things wrong” and i reiterated that I didn’t want to pressure him or to do things he isn’t ready for, he replied he thought “he was ready, but apparently not”. I asked him if he wanted to continue experimenting in this way, and he said so. However, I’m still sort of scared of going too far, I have been in uncomfortable situations sexually before, I don’t want the same to happen to him. I’ve brought up this fear afterwards too, he said if he was uncomfortable he would say so. I might be overthinking it, but I’m really scared of overstepping boundaries he doesn’t know he has yet and that has really put me off of trying to go any further (even if i really want to). Any advice on helping an inexperienced guy set boundaries, in order to keep advancing sexually? He has a really hard time communicating certain things since this is all very new to him, i make sure to always ask a lot of questions (and for consent before doing anything!), but it feels like playing a guessing game… During dirty talk he has also expressed desire to have sex, but sometimes you just say stuff when you’re horny lol I don’t know if i should take it seriously (as in, it’s normal to want sex when you’re in an intimate situation, but that doesn’t necessarily translate into being ready for it) Any help will be greatly appreciated! Thanks! submitted by /u/throawa__6 [link] [comments]
(throwaway account) I (19F) have been seeing a guy (19M) for three months, he’s very sweet and romantic, he was raised with good rolemodels when it comes to relationships. I am his first relationship, I am his first everything actually, he never saw a point in being with anyone physically if he didn’t like them enough. Well, I have a really high libido and sometimes can’t help myself. The first time i tried to give him a blowjob he went soft, and after he got hard again he just couldn’t come. We talked about it, and he said he was really nervous because he didn’t want to disappoint me and he’s really scared of doing things wrong. I gave him reassurance and said there is not really a way of “doing things wrong” and i reiterated that I didn’t want to pressure him or to do things he isn’t ready for, he replied he thought “he was ready, but apparently not”. I asked him if he wanted to continue experimenting in this way, and he said so. However, I’m still sort of scared of going too far, I have been in uncomfortable situations sexually before, I don’t want the same to happen to him. I’ve brought up this fear afterwards too, he said if he was uncomfortable he would say so. I might be overthinking it, but I’m really scared of overstepping boundaries he doesn’t know he has yet and that has really put me off of trying to go any further (even if i really want to). Any advice on helping an inexperienced guy set boundaries, in order to keep advancing sexually? He has a really hard time communicating certain things since this is all very new to him, i make sure to always ask a lot of questions (and for consent before doing anything!), but it feels like playing a guessing game… During dirty talk he has also expressed desire to have sex, but sometimes you just say stuff when you’re horny lol I don’t know if i should take it seriously (as in, it’s normal to want sex when you’re in an intimate situation, but that doesn’t necessarily translate into being ready for it) Any help will be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
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