i feel really shy and out-of-body during sexual encounters :/ /u/h3llok1ttyL0v3rr Sex

i don’t feel comfortable in my sexuality at all. i’m actually an extremely kinky person, but in person you’d think i’ve never even heard of sex. i love the idea of all kinds of sexual things in theory, but when it comes time to put it into practice i just.. shut down. it’s not like i don’t want to enjoy myself.. but i’m usually so consumed with guilt and shyness that i can’t get out of my own head enough to even feel good. i don’t know what to do in the moment, so i just pray the other person will be so focused on their own pleasure that they won’t notice that i’m feeling damn near dissociated. its not great. i’d love to be able to just let go and let things happen, and to enjoy them as they do. bleh

i don’t feel comfortable in my sexuality at all. i’m actually an extremely kinky person, but in person you’d think i’ve never even heard of sex. i love the idea of all kinds of sexual things in theory, but when it comes time to put it into practice i just.. shut down. it’s not like i don’t want to enjoy myself.. but i’m usually so consumed with guilt and shyness that i can’t get out of my own head enough to even feel good. i don’t know what to do in the moment, so i just pray the other person will be so focused on their own pleasure that they won’t notice that i’m feeling damn near dissociated. its not great. i’d love to be able to just let go and let things happen, and to enjoy them as they do. bleh