Need help with sex frequency and resentment in my relationship /u/ThrowRaOlisproblem Sex

I (27m) am with my gf (26f) for almost 3 years, I know a lot of post mention the same but im really happy with every part of our relationship except sex. I have a higher sex drive than her which didn’t really show at first since we were going at it really often during our honeymoon phase. It slowly started to change but I was still happy with the quantity and quality of the sex we had. It seems that with time it becoming less and less and I started to try and talk about it when we got under 3 times a week. From her side she told me she didn’t needed sex that much but still liked it and she thought we should have more but it only worked for a few weeks before the frequency dropped and we ended up having that talk again.

Over time I’ve been trying to find if it was something I was doing even if she doesn’t think so. I do a lot of the chores, we spend a lot of time together, we tried to do date night pretty regular and we cuddle every night. After reading about that I learned that she might only have responsive desire which when we talked about it she told me it sounded kind of like her.

I tried to initiate more and take more time to kiss here, touch her and turn her on. That does work sometimes but more often than not it doesn’t and she even feel sometimes like if im trying to pressure her so I just stopped that completely since it isnt my goal.

For the last two months we actually have sex even less, we’re probably averaging once a week and even if I try not to im starting to resent her. I also noticed that I initiate even less the less sex we have since it seems like a “lost cause” or that i’ll just pressure her or get turned down.

Tonight will be the 9th day in a row without us having sex and I have trouble not getting sad over it. When we do have sex it’s really good, she tells me the same and she cum between 1-3 times almost every time so I don’t think that’s the issue. I tried to ask her if I could do something different but she told me no.

The worst is that I know when I overthink and get sad like that I have trouble hiding it and she’ll end up noticing something is up, that we’ll talk about it and just end up both sad since we both don’t know how to solve that.

Any kind of feedback or help would be welcome!

I (27m) am with my gf (26f) for almost 3 years, I know a lot of post mention the same but im really happy with every part of our relationship except sex. I have a higher sex drive than her which didn’t really show at first since we were going at it really often during our honeymoon phase. It slowly started to change but I was still happy with the quantity and quality of the sex we had. It seems that with time it becoming less and less and I started to try and talk about it when we got under 3 times a week. From her side she told me she didn’t needed sex that much but still liked it and she thought we should have more but it only worked for a few weeks before the frequency dropped and we ended up having that talk again.

Over time I’ve been trying to find if it was something I was doing even if she doesn’t think so. I do a lot of the chores, we spend a lot of time together, we tried to do date night pretty regular and we cuddle every night. After reading about that I learned that she might only have responsive desire which when we talked about it she told me it sounded kind of like her.

I tried to initiate more and take more time to kiss here, touch her and turn her on. That does work sometimes but more often than not it doesn’t and she even feel sometimes like if im trying to pressure her so I just stopped that completely since it isnt my goal.

For the last two months we actually have sex even less, we’re probably averaging once a week and even if I try not to im starting to resent her. I also noticed that I initiate even less the less sex we have since it seems like a “lost cause” or that i’ll just pressure her or get turned down.

Tonight will be the 9th day in a row without us having sex and I have trouble not getting sad over it. When we do have sex it’s really good, she tells me the same and she cum between 1-3 times almost every time so I don’t think that’s the issue. I tried to ask her if I could do something different but she told me no.

The worst is that I know when I overthink and get sad like that I have trouble hiding it and she’ll end up noticing something is up, that we’ll talk about it and just end up both sad since we both don’t know how to solve that.

Any kind of feedback or help would be welcome!