GF (F27) and I (M28) have been together for a couple years now. Last year she found out she had endometriosis after she had stopped taking birth control which was masking the symptoms. She stopped taking it due to horrible mental health side effects and has no interest in using hormonal anything anymore, which I fully support. However, her pain and discomfort has become so frequent that we have gone from having sex about 3-4 times weekly to once every 3 weeks.
I feel a great amount of guilt for two reasons:
1) Sex always has the chance of making her very sore the next day
2) My sexual needs aren’t being met which affects my mood
To make one thing clear: I hold zero ill will towards her for having no sex drive due to health issues. It sucks much more for her than it does for me. I am recovering from porn addiction thus I really don’t want to return to masturbation to give myself release, but it’s becoming really difficult. Additionally, the lack of sex makes me feel distant from her.
I have a hard time bringing this up to her as she has a history of sexual abuse and I in no way want her to feel like she is obligated to please me. There are times we will do stuff like mutual masturbation which is fun, but it doesn’t happen very often.
I’m not really sure how to proceed and I am wondering if anyone in a similar situation has some strategies to help.
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r/sex GF (F27) and I (M28) have been together for a couple years now. Last year she found out she had endometriosis after she had stopped taking birth control which was masking the symptoms. She stopped taking it due to horrible mental health side effects and has no interest in using hormonal anything anymore, which I fully support. However, her pain and discomfort has become so frequent that we have gone from having sex about 3-4 times weekly to once every 3 weeks. I feel a great amount of guilt for two reasons: 1) Sex always has the chance of making her very sore the next day 2) My sexual needs aren’t being met which affects my mood To make one thing clear: I hold zero ill will towards her for having no sex drive due to health issues. It sucks much more for her than it does for me. I am recovering from porn addiction thus I really don’t want to return to masturbation to give myself release, but it’s becoming really difficult. Additionally, the lack of sex makes me feel distant from her. I have a hard time bringing this up to her as she has a history of sexual abuse and I in no way want her to feel like she is obligated to please me. There are times we will do stuff like mutual masturbation which is fun, but it doesn’t happen very often. I’m not really sure how to proceed and I am wondering if anyone in a similar situation has some strategies to help. submitted by /u/FloatyIceberg1773 [link] [comments]
GF (F27) and I (M28) have been together for a couple years now. Last year she found out she had endometriosis after she had stopped taking birth control which was masking the symptoms. She stopped taking it due to horrible mental health side effects and has no interest in using hormonal anything anymore, which I fully support. However, her pain and discomfort has become so frequent that we have gone from having sex about 3-4 times weekly to once every 3 weeks.
I feel a great amount of guilt for two reasons:
1) Sex always has the chance of making her very sore the next day
2) My sexual needs aren’t being met which affects my mood
To make one thing clear: I hold zero ill will towards her for having no sex drive due to health issues. It sucks much more for her than it does for me. I am recovering from porn addiction thus I really don’t want to return to masturbation to give myself release, but it’s becoming really difficult. Additionally, the lack of sex makes me feel distant from her.
I have a hard time bringing this up to her as she has a history of sexual abuse and I in no way want her to feel like she is obligated to please me. There are times we will do stuff like mutual masturbation which is fun, but it doesn’t happen very often.
I’m not really sure how to proceed and I am wondering if anyone in a similar situation has some strategies to help.
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