My boyfriend and I hit a rough patch in terms of sex. It all started shortly after we moved together, at one point he was too immersed in his video games, then he switched from WFH to working at the office in 24/7 shifts. He’s also not in the best shape. So we’d go through periods of having sex almost daily and periods of doing it once a week.
It got particularly bad in January when we averaged about 4 times for the whole month. My sex drive is really high so this sucked. I tried initiating more myself but he would reject me, I tried waiting for him, we talked a lot about it. He’d only initiate after I was visibly upset. I felt hurt and lonely.
Now he’s on a 9-5 schedule and in a couple of months he might work from home again. I guess his sex drive is back because he’s in the mood for sex again, but I don’t know… now I feel like rejecting him to show him what it feels like and that I shouldn’t have to wait around for him and be available whenever he feels like it. Plus, I felt like me keeping on insisting and being so desperate for sex might have turned him off. But simultaneously I am available because I am horny all the time and I love him and I don’t want to deny myself sex just so I can be petty and immature.
The goal is for both of us to be happy and satisfied, but I feel like sometimes one needs a little impulse and learn to appreciate what they have because they’ll regret it when they lose it.
What to do?
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r/sex My boyfriend and I hit a rough patch in terms of sex. It all started shortly after we moved together, at one point he was too immersed in his video games, then he switched from WFH to working at the office in 24/7 shifts. He’s also not in the best shape. So we’d go through periods of having sex almost daily and periods of doing it once a week. It got particularly bad in January when we averaged about 4 times for the whole month. My sex drive is really high so this sucked. I tried initiating more myself but he would reject me, I tried waiting for him, we talked a lot about it. He’d only initiate after I was visibly upset. I felt hurt and lonely. Now he’s on a 9-5 schedule and in a couple of months he might work from home again. I guess his sex drive is back because he’s in the mood for sex again, but I don’t know… now I feel like rejecting him to show him what it feels like and that I shouldn’t have to wait around for him and be available whenever he feels like it. Plus, I felt like me keeping on insisting and being so desperate for sex might have turned him off. But simultaneously I am available because I am horny all the time and I love him and I don’t want to deny myself sex just so I can be petty and immature. The goal is for both of us to be happy and satisfied, but I feel like sometimes one needs a little impulse and learn to appreciate what they have because they’ll regret it when they lose it. What to do? submitted by /u/throacco19 [link] [comments]
My boyfriend and I hit a rough patch in terms of sex. It all started shortly after we moved together, at one point he was too immersed in his video games, then he switched from WFH to working at the office in 24/7 shifts. He’s also not in the best shape. So we’d go through periods of having sex almost daily and periods of doing it once a week.
It got particularly bad in January when we averaged about 4 times for the whole month. My sex drive is really high so this sucked. I tried initiating more myself but he would reject me, I tried waiting for him, we talked a lot about it. He’d only initiate after I was visibly upset. I felt hurt and lonely.
Now he’s on a 9-5 schedule and in a couple of months he might work from home again. I guess his sex drive is back because he’s in the mood for sex again, but I don’t know… now I feel like rejecting him to show him what it feels like and that I shouldn’t have to wait around for him and be available whenever he feels like it. Plus, I felt like me keeping on insisting and being so desperate for sex might have turned him off. But simultaneously I am available because I am horny all the time and I love him and I don’t want to deny myself sex just so I can be petty and immature.
The goal is for both of us to be happy and satisfied, but I feel like sometimes one needs a little impulse and learn to appreciate what they have because they’ll regret it when they lose it.
What to do?
submitted by /u/throacco19
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